We have boy/girl twins who are 9. They are very disrespectful to us. They kick and hit each other. They yell, refuse to mind us. They are great in school. Just at home we have problems. So much chaos in our house. We end up losing our temper and yell and spank too. Please help. We are 2 parents with college degrees, we go to church, our kids are in a private presbyterian school. We are at our wits end. Neither of us were reared to disrespect our parents. Please help.