Question
I always read the Rosemond books when my child was young but must have missed the mark somewhere as she is now 20 years old and hates me and her Dad. She has told me this many times in the past couple of years. She has mentioned that we have made her life hell and can produce a "list" of things we have done to really screw her up. I won't go into detail but at times there have been some extreme melt downs on her part as she points out that she is now 20 years old (this has been going on since she was 18) and we have absolutely NO say in her life now.
I would like to point out 4 things:
1. We have been dedicated, well-meaning parents who have made mistakes, I am sure.
2. In high school she was diagnosed with cancer and spent years in treatment. (now in remission 3 years)
3. We are totally supporting her with her school and dorm, car and gas, clothes, spending money, etc.
4. Her University is 2 hours away so we can't interfere that much. (She maintains a solid B average)
She is our only child and the light of our lives. It saddens me greatly that I may be one of those women whose child never calls or remembers her birthday but it may be where we are headed. She has already told me that if I piss her off I will never see my grandchildren. (I could counter with something equally hurtful and childish, but I don't)
We continue to love her and support her but are beginning to feel more than a little "used" and "abused." We are supplying a psychologist for her to vent but I hate to think of the stories she's making up about us. Any attempts on our part to communicate and "reason" ends in tears and rants and her part.
IS THERE ANYTHING WE CAN DO?
