Question
I need a reset with our boys, ages 11, 9, 6 & 5. After a season of intense caring for our baby and 2-year-old daughter, things have become a disaster. The top misbehaviors in the house are disobedience (doing only what they want to do), disturbing the family peace (villain/victim dance, tattling, wailing, physical altercations), and destruction of property. They are reminded to do chores (the work is sub-par) and they wander away when things are not finished, despite my directive, "Come tell me when you're done."
I am stuck on the administering of consequences because I feel like I have no control over enforcing them. The four boys share a bedroom and even if they are separated, they can be loud, destructive, and a general menace. They don't have activities I can take away, they have almost zero screen time, and they have few personal possessions (some confiscated toys are clogging up my closet). I need direction on where to start because it feels overwhelming.
Thank you in advance.
