What do I do about disciplining and training bad behavior in public? In this confused world I don’t want people to think I’m being too strict, abusive, or unloving. But I have seen John’s stuff work and I believe it is possible to hold firm and be the leader but love my kids at the same time. I don’t want to be looked down on but I want to do the right thing. I’m especially worried about when I’m around family because some of them are not strict enough with their kids (so the kids control the parents) and some have read too many psychology books and are into “gentle” parenting. I don’t want to get a talking to from my aunts and uncles on the right way to raise my kids.