Our son is about to turn 7. We have implemented all of John’s suggestions in getting him to play with boy toys. Our son is doing much better BUT he is still gravitating to wanting to play with his sisters toys WITH her (she invites him). We have responded firmly with a “no, you are a boy and those are girl toys” and his immediate response is “I know, I know” and he begins to argue with us. My husband has asked him why he wants to play with her toys and our son responded with “they’re colorful, and I like dressing them, organizing, etc.” He is engineer minded, likes art, drawing, designing but we need help/suggestions as how to go forward. Toy recommendations? And how to parent him because “I said so and God made you a boy” (which is what Mr. Rosemond told us to say) doesn’t seem to be hitting home with him. Thank you.
Okay, John here. So, let me ask you a question: Would you be this upset if your daughter, same age, was fascinated with GI Joe and Tonka trucks? No, you would not be. Calm down. Chill. You're making a mountain out of a molehill. The research indicates that the primary indicator of future sexual aberrance is not wanting to play with "girl" toys; it is wanting to dress in girl clothes. In other words, as long as he is not pretending to be a girl, all is well. Don't make a big deal of his toy preference. Never mind what I might have said before. I didn't have all the information.
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