My daughter just turned two. She's a good little girl but most definitely a typical rambunctious toddler. I'm having trouble getting her to listen and obey without telling her multiple times or spanking her. I speak with confidence and don't baby talk her or use too many words. She often acts like she can't hear me or looks at me as she does the thing I told her not to do. What am I doing wrong or is this a phase I'm going to have to wait to pass?