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Grandson Needs to be Held More Accountable

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I just pulled an old John article out of my drawer that I have had for years. It was about how therapy can be detrimental to a child and rarely works. Also talked about kids emotions and feelings and how you should not legitimize them too much. My question is - would therapy EVER be appropriate? My daughters think if a child has been through trauma then therapy can help. My grandson is 7 and my daughter is divorced from his father when he was 2. They have 50/50 custody. Ex son in law is a narcissistic sociopath who delights in causing pain to my daughter and uses her son to do so. He has allowed him to play rated M video games since he was 4. He lives with the woman he had an affair with. My son in law is addicted to video games himself. So now my sweet grandson shows violent tendencies. He has kicked my dogs and his dogs and has stomped on a frog and his "pet" preying mantis. He has said violent and very hurtful things to his mother. He started Taekwondo because we thought it would be helpful but since starting has hit a girl at school twice in the stomach and hit his dad in the face. He loves doing and saying things to me that he knows will hurt me then he smiles. I have been a fun and very loving grama to him and he is the love of my life. I am so concerned. My daughter is a great mom who gives him consequences and we made him take a month off of Taekwondo because of his actions. He is very good at it and loves it. My daughter is at a loss for what to do. He responds to her and to us sometimes in a very mean way. Is he at the point where counseling may help?

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