Sorry I forgot to add to the previous message, how do I help my son with these mixed messages and how do I also deal with behaviour and boundaries when he comes back from his Dad? He comes back very emotional and with poor behaviour. His Dad is very emotionally and psychologically abusive and constantly puts my son down and has unrealistic expectations and calls him stupid if he gets something wrong etC.
It’s very hard for me to deal with. I worry about his confidence when his best is never good enough. He calls himself stupid etc. I don’t want to be too harsh on him when he comes home because it must be difficult for him however I want my expectations known.