We used the N75 method for a month, and she would pee/poop in the potty but only when we placed her there - and she cries inconsolably while on the potty. She won't get on the potty by herself. We started the gate/bell method and she pees on the floor....so we told her she had to clean it up herself, which she happily does. How do we get her to get on the potty herself? We are trying to not hover over her.