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Are Family Beds Healthy for the Marriage?


John's "Thought of the Day" said that good parents take very good care of their marriage. I wonder how he feels about "co-sleeping" with a new baby and if that is harmful to the marriage. I want to do what is best for my marriage and our child. Is this a question you can answer?


Yes, this is definitely a question we can answer! If you have John's book, "The Well Behaved Child," turn to page 120 and read why he is an outspoken opponent of "co-sleeping" and the "family bed." Here it is in a nutshell: "...not one study done by an objective researcher has demonstrated benefit in either the short or long term to the children so bedded. The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends against the practice, noting that infants are sometimes smothered by parents who inadvertently roll over on them in the night or as a result of getting tangled in the large sheets and blankets...But there is no two ways about it: a child who sleeps with his parents develops a dependency upon sleeping with his parents, one that comes back to haunt all concerned when the parents decide the child's presence in the bed has become inconvenient. Meanwhile, this child has been deprived of the inestimable benefit of learning that he was not a member of the wedding. that the marriage is not a threesome." Healthy happy children have parents who hold their marriage in high esteem and the marriage bed as holy.

Cyndy Shoemaker
Certified Leadership Parenting Coach

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