I have three teenagers. For my older two - the 17 and 16-yr old - thinking of their family members on special occasions like birthdays or Christmas is clearly not a priority for them. All throughout their lives, I would remind them about birthdays and preparing presents (whether made or bought), would give them rides to go shopping, etc. I expected that as they grew older, they would gradually take initiative themselves; but it is clear that if I don't say anything, they won't bother themselves (and will not get anyone anything). Yet, when it comes to their birthdays, or what they're getting for Christmas, of course, that matters very much to them! I don't think this is right, and was wondering what, if anything, I should do about this.