Question
I need help formulating a garden kick for my 10 yr old daughter. She is the oldest of 6 children, has behaved badly since she was 3, and is now increasingly unable to coexist in the home with her family. She almost daily goes on screaming fits against me (mom) when given a consequence or told something she doesn't like. She constantly yells, talks back, ignores, insults parents, refuses to obey, contemptuous attitude toward parents, etc. She constantly picks on younger siblings both physically and verbally (insults, tickling, poking, won't let them go, etc.), tries to control them, hits them, physically attacks them. We homeschool, so all the children are home with me all the time, and there are constantly problems related to her. She is the only child who has her own room, of which she is quite jealous and territorial. Please tell me if the following is a good plan - We clear out her room of everything except bed, some clothes, and her favorite lovey toy that she still sleeps with. Nothing but family photos and religious items on the walls. We put a desk and her school books in her room, since she is constantly distracted and bothering the other kids when she's in our downstairs classroom area (she also often refuses to do schoolwork). She gets three tickets or strikes per day. She loses one every time she yells at or insults a parent, refuses to obey, or touches a sibling in any kind of hurtful or annoying way. Each day after breakfast she goes alone to her boring room to do the schoolwork she can do independently (I will do other work with her in the afternoon during naps). She can be out of her room as long as she's finished with her schoolwork, hasn't lost all her tickets, and is being generally respectful to parents and kind to siblings. She goes 30 days without losing all her tickets to get her stuff back. I will admit that we have done a lot of things wrong and not been the leadership parents we should have been all along. But if we start now and continue going forward, does this sound like a good plan?
