Question
My partner and I share custody of his ten year old son. His son is now in 5th grade and is really having to step up with homework and classwork, which he is not doing. We only have him every other weekend and it is therefore impossible to apply consequences for incomplete homework and school work. His mother signed him up for hockey and is adamant that we take him when he's with us on the weekends even if he has bad grades and doesn't do his schoolwork, which goes against our values. His son is failing in school and does not do his homework on the weekends he is with us. We abide by the policy of "it's your homework, not ours". We have told him and his mother that we will not be taking him to hockey until he has better school and homework habits and has passing grades. Since we do not have him long enough to help him learn said habits, how do we manage the weekends? He is given time to do his homework, but he simply doesn't do it because "he doesn't want to". He already doesn't have TV, computer, anything of the sort so there's not much more we can take away from him. Should we just take him to hockey since his mother is the one that pretty much dictates how he is raised? Thank you!
