One follow up question. When do we seek counseling, if at all, and for whom (just her, just her parents-and separately at that since we’re divorced)? We’re both wondering if her out-of-control behavior is due to being out of control of her living arrangements-going back and forth every two or three days to her dad’s or my home. Is it time to reconsider the custody schedule, consider counseling, or lower the boom on her? Thank you.