Question
My 8 year old son is giving us a few issues. He primarily lives with my husband and I, and goes to his fathers every Friday and every other weekend. He is allowed to do whatever he wants which mostly consists of video games and YouTube all day long. We are a lot more strict at our house and we're trying the "out of the garden" and 'Ticket system" punishment. His 3 misbehaviors are: Always forgetting his things (backpack, homework, sweatshirt, etc) at home, school, daycare, you name it. I can say with starting the punishment he has improved with this. Second misbehavior is that he's acting up in school. He's been in school for a little over a month and his teacher finally decided to tell me that he's been disrupting the class everyday with constant reminders to stop fooling around. I set up a parent teacher conference to fill her in on the ticket system and how it would help if she contacted me more frequently about his behavior so I can fix it at home. It's been over a week so I contacted her and come to find out nothing has changed. My son earned 4 stickers on his chart when he didn't deserve them. I told her again to notify me about his behavior, she said once he gets to 3 reminders she will send a sheet home. I disagree with this. I want to know daily so I can correct this and stop it from happening with future teachers. Third misbehavior is getting ready for school. He is what you call an extreme "lally gagger". We give him an hour and a half to get ready which is way more time than anyone should have. Most of the time he is ready by the time I asked him to be but he will take about 25 minutes to get dressed and use the bathroom and another 20 to eat his breakfast. It's very frustrating. We've taken absolutely everything away and started this punishment a week and a half ago. Once you see progress from him and you give him a little bit of slack he regresses. Which is why I decided to not let him go to his fathers this weekend. I tried to fill his father in on everything and even printed out articles of the ticket system and out of the garden so we can be on the same page. He seemed on board. My son went over there for 1 night and watched YouTube. I explained to his father that he will not take this seriously if we are not consistent. I do not want to keep him from his dad and I want more than anything for my son to complete his 14 days with stickers. But with his father and teacher not cooperating its setting everything back.
