...when co-bedding becomes a problem...


My daughter is 5 years old. I am a single mom so it's just the two of us at home. At night, we read stories and say night prayers, and I typically either fall asleep next to her, or sing her to sleep. Sometime in the middle of the night, she runs across the apartment to my bed and falls asleep. At his house, my ex-husband does not stay with her until she falls asleep. He tells me that I need to wean her off of me staying with her until she falls asleep, because it is damaging her, and it makes it more difficult to get her to sleep at his house. He says she gets very distressed when he tries to leave her room, citing that "Mommy stays with me." I figure her preference of me staying with her till she falls asleep is an age-related thing and it will go away as she grows up, and not to far in the future either. She does have a couple of nightlights in her room. Do I need to “wean” her? Am I "damaging" her? If so, what are some ways to do that without too much suffering involved?

Thank you.

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