Question
I regularly read your newsletter and have read several of your books. I've heard you discuss the importance of kids being responsible for keeping the family peace and using a ticket type system to enforce this responsibility (1 hour in room for first offense and rest of the day and early bedtime for the 2nd offense.) I've also read you saying that it is helpful/important for mom and dad not to get involved or seek to mediate every sibling kerfuffle. I'm wondering if you could explain the types of behaviors that should result in a losing a family peace ticket and what types of behaviors I should not get involved in. My kiddos in question are 4 and 6 year old boys. I tried using the family peace tickets system a year ago without much luck. I'm not sure if it was because they were too young or because i was getting involved in/taking tickets for things that I should have just let the two of them work out on their own without getting involved, if that makes sense. I guess I'm trying to sort out what is normal sibling behavior and what merits taking a ticket. Thanks for your insight!
