Sass in the Second Stage


Hello, I'm confused about why in the second stage of parenting, ages 10 to 13, it appears that if a child yells at their parents or is disrespectful, there is an immediate consequence. For example, this kind of thing could be on the strike chart, correct? However, while listening to the teen proofing audiophile, John explains how his daughter Amy was back talking and saying things like, "I'm not going to do the chores because I need a day off"   He then brings up how most parents at this point would be saying things like, "you don't get to talk to me like that, it's my house and blah blah blah." However, he doesn't engage, but tells her they have good communication. Haha He doesn't give a consequence for the back talk. So, am I misunderstanding how to deal with a younger child who acts in this way, or am I supposed to give consequences for children between 3 and 13 for this type of behavior, but not for teenagers? And finally, if I don't give consequences for my teenager for this type of thing,  when do I? Like is there ever a point where a teenagers back talk is too much and shouldn't be ingnored? And when is That?

I know this is a loaded question but I really am wanting to know because I have children who fit into the 3 to 13 stage and the teenage stage. And my daughter is a teenager and is rude and disrespectful alot unfortunately. It's really hard to know what to do with her....

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