Question
I am a Mom of 4 kids ages 15 girl, 13 boy, 10 girl, 8 boy. My oldest, at around age 9 stared eye rolling and disrespectful behaviors & it has only gotten worse. I limit electronics/TV/social media. My husband historically has not. He prefers them quiet even if they are watching TV for hours. If I took away TV or electronics privileges, he often undermines my parenting & allows the kids to do what has been taken away or go to their friend's house even if they are being punished for something. (Does not like confrontation.) He is either doing nothing (completely ignoring them even if they are misbehaving) or screaming. Recently, my oldest used my credit card without permission and spent ~$700 & had it shipped to her friend's house so I wouldn't notice. She did this 2 years ago ($100 of Victoria's Secret stuff we returned & she was punished). She often calls me names and swears at me/disrespects me (I took her to counseling because of this- I am a 4 year breast cancer survivor & wasn't sure if she was having issues with this). I have taken away her phone, social media, told her she is paying me AND giving me the clothes, no profanity, no sports, & on house arrest until further notice. My husband is now "feeling bad" and being overly sweet to her even though she did this to herself! Our marriage is suffering because I resent him for not being on the same page on parenting. How long do I punish her for? Am I doing this right? I do not want a criminal for a daughter or my other kids to think this is OK. Thank you so much!
