Question
I've just read "The Well Behaved Child". I have 3yo twin boys.
There are A LOT of things I want to work on but am taking your advice to only work on one at a time. I want to use the Ticket System.
One of our main issues with the boys is they simply do not listen to what we say or they scream, cry, whine and snarl and still do not do as we say.
My plan is to have one target behaviour to start "Refusing to do what mom and dad tell you to" and 5 tickets each.
I want to be clear on your advice. We should only ask them ONE time correct? None of this "if you don't do what mom or dad asks we have to take a ticket" business right? If they don't do it we tell them "You didn't listen to mom so I am taking a ticket". Do we warn or tell them when they ask that when all the tickets are gone there will be a "major" consequence? Or just let them find out on their own? They share a room. They have never had much for entertainment in their room. They are no toys and they have never had any electronics. They have books in their room and their dresser with a few clothes and two toddler beds.
My thoughts were that when all the tickets are gone send him (or them) to their room for the day. Now I'm wondering will it be as effective since they could potentially be together in the room?
Putting them to bed an hour earlier isn't an option at this point because the bedtime struggle is very real and next on my list of things to correct with our children.
I want to make sure I know what I'm doing before I start this. If you could offer any advice on how to make this situation better or have any suggestions please let me know. Thanks!
