Question
I wrote a few months ago about my daughter who I caught drinking. It turns out that it wasn't a blip on the radar with her. Given her behavior of late (defensive, sneaky), I tracked her location on the phone today and found out that she went to a 'vape' store instead of a restaurant like she said she was going to. (she knows we track her location). I then reviewed her text messages on her computer and found out that she in fact was going to a vape store and bringing a lot of cash from babysitting. And I also found out that, based on responses to friends, she's been drinking and admitted to smoking pot. It appears she's continued with rebellious behavior, and she's on the path of self destruction. I would prefer not to admit I looked on her device and found out this info. I also want to be sure she pays the consequences for these actions. Certainly, signing up for the drivers license test (she has a permit now) is not happening anytime soon. We've had to recently ban her from driving with friends who recently got their license as well. You would have thought we were pulling teeth without novocaine. She kept telling us, we were the only parents who care and the cops in town don't care either. Well, we care and we are following the laws/rules. I'd love your suggestions on the latest findings today (vape, drinking/pot, accessing her computer). She's been claiming we've been 'up her butt' about everything lately and we drive her crazy and we need to relax. She says she can't go anywhere without us texting her and checking in (this is true, but given her prior issue, we've been more cautious). She also wants sleepovers all the time, either at our house or at others. Thanks so much
