Question
Should we expect any structure in the home when our 18-year-old returns weekends from a summer job? She usually heads straight to her boyfriend's family home and rolls in around 3 a.m. both nights. We'd love to have a family meal with her but do we just say, "Dinner is at 6, it would mean a lot if you could join us," and let it drop or could we more more insistent like, "When you come home for the weekend, you need to pick one meal to have with the family." Finally, she comes through like a hurricane, runs around seeing all her friends and departs leaving her room a mess: dirty clothes on the floor, items the dogs could get hurt on; basically inconsiderate all around. Not sure what the balance is between seeming too pushy and stating some general expectations of when she is home.
