Question
Dear Parent Guru,
It's been a year since I have written! I dug up my favorite book Power of the Praying Parent by Stormie O'Martin and praying has calmed me having a daughter in her 2nd year in college.
As I wrote last year, she is here again for Fall break with the same precious girls (6!) They have been here since Wednesday and they been having fun with their excursions (A side note: I have not had any alone time with her, I do remember coming home from college and wanting to hang out with my friends so I get it). I have been cooking like crazy and loving every minute.
Everything was going great until last night. The girls were on there way to go to the festival in town last night and we have a local high school game that we normally go to. My husband left to go to the game and I stayed behind planning to go late and make sure the girls ate before they headed out. Once I did, I left to the game I literally didn't feel like going but still went then couldn't find a parking space after 15 minutes decided to come home.
When I arrived in the kitchen was a cooler full of beer and 1/2 full bottle of Vodka, I called my daughter down and asked why she had this. (They are all 19). She then ran with it upstairs and told me I couldn't have it, it wasn't mine. Hmmm I am thinking to my self.....
I told her (in the hall) because she wouldn't come to my room to privately talk that "It was disrespectful to drink in our house". Oh no she proclaimed..."We were not going to drink it here but elsewhere". Me "Great! even dumber. Do you know of the rule for open containers in our state? The whole car can get sited..... I then told her, "What kind of parent would I be to just overlook the alcohol and say hey do you need some diet coke with your vodka?"
Bottom line, she decided to put the liquor and beer away and they were "Not going to drink".
I know they drink in college, but I did print out the medical reasons why the drinking age is 21. They didn't make up this special number for a reason and I printed out the state laws for open containers.
I am pretty frustrated, but because I really don't know what I should have said differently and if I should continue the conversation or just let it go!! Help!
I think I need to get a masters in Psychology or something so I can learn more......
