Re:13 yo and 8 yo Ticket System, Revisited
Dinah, I don't think my problem is micromanagement. The reason that I have 30 target behaviors that I have dealt with my kids over the years is simply because my target behaviors are very specific, and don't cover broad areas, like "Be respectful to others" "Be polite" "Be kind".
My target behaviors are more like "No eye rolling when I tell you to do something" "Look right into the eyes when you talk to adults" "when you say 'Thank you', no whispering. Use your big voice". I work on those very specific issues for a couple of months and move on to the next three. That's why there are so many target behaviors over the years.
Do you still think I am micromanaging and I should change the way I've been doing this? I am very open to any help and advice. Just let me know what you think, Dinah. I am willing to change and follow your advice. Thank you for your help!