One more question about defiance - the more passive kind like dilly dallying, "forgetting" and "not hearing" instructions. Both my boys are not angrily defiant, but in my view, the above behaviors are still disobedient and cause all kinds of frustration in the family atmosphere. I've read that parental attitude more so than "methods" are the key to discipline, but many times my authoritative speech goes completely ignored, and right now I don't have consequences to back up said speech. I'm considering tickets, or possibly a talk with The Doctor about why my kids can't hear my instructions or follow them quickly. Would appreciate any advice for implementing either of these, or any other approach that proves effective. Thanks!