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My almost three year old son lives with his mother. He visits overnight once a week and every other weekend...
I cannot say this to my husband, but the little guy's "mommy" is trying to make "her son" hate me! He wants absolutely nothing to do with me for at least the first 24 hours, after which he will catch himself if he laughs at me or smiles at me and look terribly, terribly guilty about it.
The whole time I just act like everything is fine and by the end of his visits, I am getting hugs and kisses and "I wuv yous" just like Daddy and big brother.
I know, at least I think, that I am doing the right thing by ignoring this...but what on earth is this woman saying about me that makes a little boy afraid to interact with me?!?!
Am I doing some emotional damage here? Should I try NOT to play with him/ take care of him etc? I love him more than you can imagine and my heart breaks a little every time he comes to visit...I feel totally helpless. Maybe this is what his mother wants? Advice, please?!

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