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7 year old craving constant attention

Posted on 4/14/2020

My 7 year old struggles to play by himself. He wants me to play with him all the time. For example he is always complaining he cannot find a Lego piece before he has actually looked, he needs help...

Ages: Preschool (4-5 years), School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Character/Values (teaching), Homeschooling, Miscellaneous Editorial Columns, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Rewards, Single Parents

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Don't overthink it

Posted on 4/14/2020

I am diagnosed with depression, anxiety, OCD and CPTSD and grew up in a very dysfunctional, emotionally abusive and neglectful home. I struggled with post natal depression and never sought help...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Mothers

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Hands Off!

Posted on 3/29/2020

My 7 year is always making stupid annoying loud noises and shouting and he keeps doing this in his 8 month old sisters face. He also constantly grabs her hands and smothers her. They seem to get...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Aggression, Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Electronics (Computers/Video Games/Television/Cell Phones), John's Discipline Methods, Miscellaneous Discipline Problems, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority

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Co-Parenting precautions continued

Posted on 3/29/2020

My 7 year old son has picked up on some terrible slang while with his father. Everything is “banging mate” as one example. It sounds horrendous. How do I stop this?

Ages: No Specific Age, Preschool (4-5 years), School Age (6-10 years), Pre-Teen (11-12 years), Young Teen/Junior High (13-15 years)

Topics: Character/Values (teaching), Consequences/Punishment, Divorce/Custody, Fathers, Manners, Miscellaneous Discipline Problems, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Rebellious Behavior, Single Parents, Socialization/Social Skills, Step-Families

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10 Year Old Testing Boundaries

Posted on 2/8/2020

I have been using the alpha speech. I make mistakes sometimes, escalating my voice because I'm frustrated. On the most part I'm pretty consistent. I noticed in alpha speech you do no use...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years), Pre-Teen (11-12 years), Young Teen/Junior High (13-15 years)

Topics: Arguments with Children, Character/Values (teaching), Consequences/Punishment, Disobedience/Defiance, John's Discipline Methods, Manners, Miscellaneous Discipline Problems, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Sibling Conflict, Socialization/Social Skills, Teenage Issues

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Mom Wants 13-Month-Old to Stop Screaming

Posted on 1/20/2020

Hi. I am having some difficulties with my 13-month-old. He is stubborn, disobedient and he screams quite a bit if he doesn’t get his way. He does not yet talk, and I was told that screaming is his...

Ages: Birth to 18MOS

Topics: Food/Eating Problems, Manners, Mealtime/Eating, Mothers

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Little Victories

Posted on 1/16/2020

Not a question; more of a comment of thanks. I started the Ticket Method (at home for both home and school behaviors) a week ago and today my son's teacher (1st grade) sent me an email stating...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Disobedience/Defiance, John's Discipline Methods, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, School Issues

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3 year old needs more time to adjust to playing at preschool

Posted on 1/13/2020

Hi! I have spoken with a coach via email, and was happy with the response. I recently spoke with my recently turned 3 year old son’s teachers, and had a chance to sit in on one of his church child...

Ages: Toddler (18MOS-3 years), Pre-Preschool (3 Year Old)

Topics: Daycare/Preschool, Manners, Mothers, School Issues, Social Issues (fighting/arguing with friends), Socialization/Social Skills

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Time for a Reset

Posted on 1/12/2020

Clarification to my follow up question: When you say impose consequences... often my consequences are extra chores. I do not know what else to offer as a consequence. They're too young to take...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years), Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: Arguments with Children, Character/Values (teaching), Chores/Responsibilities, Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Disobedience/Defiance, Grandparents/Grandchildren, John's Discipline Methods, Lying, Miscellaneous Discipline Problems, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Rebellious Behavior

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Alpha Speech is Key for Getting Kids to Obey

Posted on 1/10/2020

I have 2 girls, 9 & 6. They will not obey. They’ll lie that they did something and I have to verify completion or it’s never done. I used the ticket system and I had to take away every privilege...

Ages: Preschool (4-5 years), School Age (6-10 years), Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: Arguments with Children, Character/Values (teaching), Chores/Responsibilities, Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Disobedience/Defiance, John's Discipline Methods, Lying, Miscellaneous Discipline Problems, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Rebellious Behavior

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Is Child's Threat of Suicide a Cry for Help or for Attention?

Posted on 1/9/2020

My oldest is eleven and started middle school this year. Overall it has been a smooth transition. She has a great group of friends and likes school. She does not have a phone and has very limited...

Ages: Pre-Teen (11-12 years), Young Teen/Junior High (13-15 years)

Topics: Arguments with Children, Character/Values (teaching), Consequences/Punishment, Depression/Self-Harm, Manners, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, School Issues, Socialization/Social Skills, Teenage Issues

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Hold Me! Never Let Me Go!

Posted on 1/8/2020

My daughter (age 2) demands to be held an excessive amount. By "excessive amount", I mean hours in a row. The more holding I give her, the more she demands. She gets furious when put down before...

Ages: Toddler (18MOS-3 years)

Topics: Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), John's Discipline Methods, Miscellaneous Discipline Problems, Mothers, Pacifiers/Security Blankets/Thumbsucking, Parent Leadership and Authority

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Relationship Reboot

Posted on 12/9/2019

This is a Part II to an early question submitted about a very strong-willed and increasingly mouthy 16-year old daughter. Please bear with someone who has subscribed for YEARS without submitting...

Ages: Older Teen/High School (16-18 years)

Topics: Arguments with Children, Character/Values (teaching), Chores/Responsibilities, Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Disobedience/Defiance, Extracurricular Activities/Hobbies, Fathers, Homework, John's Discipline Methods, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Rebellious Behavior, School Issues, Teenage Issues

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Bump in the Road

Posted on 12/3/2019

My son is 4 years old and lately has been having trouble sleeping. He gets up several times a night and wants me to sleep with him. I have been divorced for 1 year and have joint custody with my...

Ages: Preschool (4-5 years)

Topics: ADHD and other disorders, Bedtime/Sleep, Divorce/Custody, John's Discipline Methods, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Single Parents

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Forming a United Parenting Front

Posted on 12/1/2019

Hello...fully realizing Mr Rosemond is NOT a marriage counselor I do have a question. I am 70 years old and my spouse is 49. We have a daughter, 10 years old, that is very bright (public school...

Ages: No Specific Age, School Age (6-10 years), Pre-Teen (11-12 years)

Topics: Character/Values (teaching), Homeschooling, Homework, John's Discipline Methods, Marriage Issues, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, School Issues

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Mommy Guilt Not Helping Anyone

Posted on 11/30/2019

I have a 5 month old daughter who likes to be held and cuddled all day long. I love the cuddles and I am trying to make the most of this stage as I know how quickly it goes, and I deeply regret...

Ages: Birth to 18MOS, Preschool (4-5 years)

Topics: Anxieties, Fears, Mothers

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Ignoring Bad Habits

Posted on 11/25/2019

My 9-year-old daughter still puts things in her mouth and chews on them like a toddler: Lego pieces, wrappers, etc. It seems like she has an oral fixation and always needs to be chewing or sucking...

Ages: No Specific Age, School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Character/Values (teaching), Consequences/Punishment, Manners, Miscellaneous Discipline Problems, Mothers, Pacifiers/Security Blankets/Thumbsucking, Parent Leadership and Authority, Social Issues (fighting/arguing with friends), Socialization/Social Skills

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Maintaining Your Own Identity

Posted on 11/20/2019

Hi, My family (my husband and I) have the opportunity for me to leave the workforce for a few years to stay home with our 5 year old and 1 year old twins. While I am thrilled to have this...

Ages: Toddler (18MOS-3 years), Preschool (4-5 years)

Topics: Mothers

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Too Much To-Do From a Toddler

Posted on 11/14/2019

My daughter is 21 months. She constantly wants me to hold her when we are home. I cannot keep it up. If I don’t hold her when she wants, she cries and cries. Help! What should I do? Also, she’s...

Ages: Toddler (18MOS-3 years)

Topics: Mothers, Tantrums

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Expect her to obey

Posted on 11/8/2019

My two and a half year old does well with listening when I use alpha speech and she is looking at me. I usually tell her, "Look at mommy" before I tell her what to do because I have found that if...

Ages: Toddler (18MOS-3 years)

Topics: Character/Values (teaching), Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority

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The Struggle is Real

Posted on 11/6/2019

We have struggled with our child being ashamed to be seen with either of us (her parents) in public, to the point that she acts in a way that hurts us. She is now in middle school (7th grade);...

Ages: Young Teen/Junior High (13-15 years)

Topics: Character/Values (teaching), Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Fathers, John's Discipline Methods, Manners, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Teenage Issues

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Mom looking for Plan B to make Toddlerhood easier

Posted on 11/3/2019

I have a perhaps unusual question. We are about to embark on toddlerhood and toilet training, and want to be prepared in case things don't go smoothly. I think we will need an alternative to...

Ages: Toddler (18MOS-3 years)

Topics: Mothers, Tantrums, Toilet Training

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Harsh Consequences?

Posted on 10/24/2019

I have been using the ticket system with my 5-year-old for about a week now. When he loses his tickets he’s sent to his room for the remainder of the day. However, my son seems to be dealing with...

Ages: Preschool (4-5 years)

Topics: Anxieties, Fears, Character/Values (teaching), Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Fathers, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority

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Be the Alpha Female

Posted on 10/10/2019

Our 5 yo son is very well-behaved at school (he just started kindergarten 6 weeks ago) but his behavior has worsened by extremes at home. Especially at bedtime, if I don't snuggle him in his bed...

Ages: Preschool (4-5 years)

Topics: Bedtime/Sleep, Disobedience/Defiance, Fathers, John's Discipline Methods, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Tantrums

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Dinner Time Battle of the Wills

Posted on 9/16/2019

My 3 year old daughter has developed a bad habit at dinner time. Although she’s usually pretty good to try new foods, every now and then she will - for some unknown reason - hold a bite of food in...

Ages: Toddler (18MOS-3 years), Pre-Preschool (3 Year Old)

Topics: Arguments with Children, Food/Eating Problems, Mealtime/Eating, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Rewards, Spanking

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Behavior getting worse not better

Posted on 9/15/2019

I just started reading the well behaved child. I have a 6 year old girl and a 10 year old boy. Their behavior has gotten worse. My daughter comes out of her room constantly after having been...

Ages: Preschool (4-5 years), School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Aggression, Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority

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Grandparent Etiquette

Posted on 9/15/2019

I am a single mom with a 6-year-old girl. Both sets of grandparents live close by, and she is very close to both of them. I am trying to teach her that when we visit, she is to say hello,...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Disobedience/Defiance, Grandparents/Grandchildren, John's Discipline Methods, Manners, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Single Parents

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Don't give up!

Posted on 9/7/2019

Few days ago, I posted a question regarding my 23 month old who is strongly refusing to sleep on her own, and Kaye Wilson answered my question under the 2-yo Bedtime Tyrant title. I have been...

Ages: Toddler (18MOS-3 years)

Topics: Bedtime/Sleep, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Tantrums

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Grandparent Etiquette and More

Posted on 9/6/2019

Hi. I am a single mom with a 6 year old girl. I have both sets of grandparents close and she is very close to both of them. My question is two fold. I am trying to teach her that when we visit,...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Character/Values (teaching), Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Disobedience/Defiance, Manners, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Single Parents

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When Food Issues Become Power Struggles

Posted on 9/5/2019

I asked a question about my 8 year old sneaking sweets - we have since carried out your suggestions - but it is not working. She looks for other ways to get sweets. We allowed her to buy some cup...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Arguments with Children, Character/Values (teaching), Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Disobedience/Defiance, Food/Eating Problems, John's Discipline Methods, Lying, Mealtime/Eating, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, School Issues

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Wrestle Mania

Posted on 9/3/2019

We started the ticket system with our 3 year old a few weeks ago (along with working on changing our language to Alpha language). I think he gets it. He can verbalize the basics of the system and...

Ages: Pre-Preschool (3 Year Old)

Topics: Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Disobedience/Defiance, Fathers, John's Discipline Methods, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Tantrums

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Retreats with Dr. Rosemond

Posted on 8/30/2019

Will there be any parent retreats in 2020 on the east coast? We would be interested.

Ages: No Specific Age

Topics: Adoption/Foster Parent, Fathers, Mothers

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No Toddlers Allowed!!

Posted on 8/29/2019

I am currently reading Making the "Terrible" Twos Terrific and in Q&A section of Chapter 3, a mom asks about her son who throws things, even in restaurants. In his response to the mother, Dr....

Ages: Birth to 18MOS

Topics: Manners, Mealtime/Eating, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Tantrums

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Encouraging Friendships

Posted on 8/26/2019

We have recently moved from US to Singapore for 3 years with my husband’s job. My 11 and 5 year old have made lots of friends and are settling in. My 9 year old son is happy to go to school and...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Character/Values (teaching), Extracurricular Activities/Hobbies, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, School Issues

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Concerns About Child's Adjustment to New Sibling

Posted on 8/21/2019

Our 3-year-old daughter has a brother coming early January. I am pretty nervous about how she will react and if I have what it takes to continue to make her feel secure. My brother came when I was...

Ages: Pre-Preschool (3 Year Old)

Topics: Anxieties, Fears, Mothers

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7 year old yells at himself

Posted on 8/14/2019

I have a 7 year old boy with behavior problems but only towards me, his Mother. Whenever he is disrespectful and starts screaming at me I send him to his room for the rest of the day. While he is...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Consequences/Punishment, Depression/Self-Harm, Disobedience/Defiance, Mothers

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Toddler in church.

Posted on 8/9/2019

My 17 mo daughter hates to go to the nursery at church. I always drop her off cheerfully and quickly, but she cries for 45 minutes or more, until she falls asleep in a stroller that dedicated...

Ages: Birth to 18MOS

Topics: Mothers

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Premature Worry

Posted on 7/30/2019

Hello. I adopted my son, now 5 1/2, at birth, and I am a single working (teacher) mother. He is close to my brothers and my dad and has never expressed a desire for a dad and when asked, will...

Ages: Preschool (4-5 years), School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Adoption/Foster Parent, Mothers, School Issues, Single Parents

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A Strong Marriage is Your First Priority

Posted on 7/24/2019

This is the scinerao...we are sitting at the dinner table. My husband is reading "whatever the latest news is" on his phone. When our 6 yr. talks back to me or does not do what I have asked of...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Character/Values (teaching), Fathers, Grandparents/Grandchildren, Manners, Marriage Issues, Mealtime/Eating, Mothers

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When only one child misbehaves should the other kids have to miss out?

Posted on 7/24/2019

We live in an apartment. During the working days I am at work all day long. We have three girls: 6-year old, 4-year old and 3-month old baby. The two older kids have been adopted three years ago...

Ages: Pre-Preschool (3 Year Old), Preschool (4-5 years), School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Adoption/Foster Parent, Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Extracurricular Activities/Hobbies, Miscellaneous Discipline Problems, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority

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Ditch the Daycare

Posted on 6/21/2019

My 20 month old toddler is having a very hard time adjusting to daycare. I believe she has severe separation and social anxieties. I am a stay at home mom and I am putting my daughter in daycare...

Ages: Toddler (18MOS-3 years)

Topics: Anxieties, Fears, Daycare/Preschool, Mothers

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Discipline is not Always Convenient

Posted on 6/6/2019

When our son hits, we send him to his room for the entire day. However, his hitting tends to happen towards dinner/bedtime so we sentence him to his room the next day. Inevitably, it falls on a...

Ages: Preschool (4-5 years), School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Aggression, Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Disobedience/Defiance, Extracurricular Activities/Hobbies, Fathers, John's Discipline Methods, Manners, Miscellaneous Discipline Problems, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Social Issues (fighting/arguing with friends), Socialization/Social Skills

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Following the Leader

Posted on 5/21/2019

My girls, ages 6,5 and 3, prefer to follow me around during their free time. They just like to watch what I’m doing and talk and sometimes be involved in what I’m doing. I wonder if I should send...

Ages: Pre-Preschool (3 Year Old), Preschool (4-5 years), School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Chores/Responsibilities, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority

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Time Management for Busy Moms

Posted on 4/19/2019

For a stay-at-home mom who is having difficulty with time management, what is a good balance between housekeeping/cooking duties, working from home, spending time with husband, and spending time...

Ages: Toddler (18MOS-3 years)

Topics: Extracurricular Activities/Hobbies, Mothers

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Jesus Loves the Little Children Through Grandparents

Posted on 4/14/2019

I am a step grandparent. We have a three year old grandson who is being raised in a progressive, liberal, agnostic environment. The household is run by the toddler and to say it is matriarch ruled...

Ages: Toddler (18MOS-3 years), Pre-Preschool (3 Year Old)

Topics: Character/Values (teaching), Daycare/Preschool, Grandparents/Grandchildren, Mothers, Step-Families

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Strike a Balance

Posted on 3/26/2019

I’m having a difficult time with my nearly 6 year old son. It feels like we are butting heads all of the time. He has become increasingly more sensitive lately. Throwing huge tantrums, crying over...

Ages: Preschool (4-5 years)

Topics: Bedtime/Sleep, Chores/Responsibilities, Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Fathers, John's Discipline Methods, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Tantrums

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Doing it Right Means Staying the Course

Posted on 3/12/2019

Hello, We recently asked a question about our seven year old son who was refusing to stay in his room after losing all his daily strikes. We were told to make him 'an offer he hopefully can't...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Disobedience/Defiance, Fathers, John's Discipline Methods, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority

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Lowering the Boom

Posted on 3/1/2019

I have been seeking help from this site for a long time and would appreciate you looking through our history for insight and understanding. My now seven year old son is still having behavior...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Chores/Responsibilities, Consequences/Punishment, Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out), Disobedience/Defiance, Electronics (Computers/Video Games/Television/Cell Phones), Fathers, John's Discipline Methods, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, School Issues

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Higher Level Thinking Skills

Posted on 3/1/2019

My 7 year old son has a problem solving problem. Any task he performs can make him melt down. I am sure that when he was younger I would jump in and solve his problem, but I have been very...

Ages: School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Character/Values (teaching), Fathers, Mothers, Parent Leadership and Authority, Socialization/Social Skills

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Sometimes kids are weird

Posted on 2/24/2019

My 6 year old still puts things in his mouth, toys, icicles from the bottom of the car. We've explained why he needs to stop this behaviour, but don't know how to effectively stop the behaviour....

Ages: School Age (6-10 years)

Topics: Manners, Mothers

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