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Door-slamming, Window-banging, Stuff-throwing: Is This What Little Boys are Made of?
Posted on 3/19/2021
I have a high misbehaver and he has been on the ticket system for many months with two target misbehaviors of disobedience and fighting with his brother. I need some advice of how to switch him...
Read MoreWhen Getting Dressed Becomes Game of Chase
Posted on 2/16/2021
Hi, my daughter, will turn 3 in 2 months recently started defying us when it comes to changing her clothes. Whenever she is told it’s time to do it, she thinks its some sort of game, runs away or...
Read More5th Grader Returning to Bad Habits
Posted on 2/8/2021
My son is in the 5th grade and hasn’t been completing any of his school work. We grounded him for a month. We took away everything away besides a few outfits and he was to stay in his room except...
Read MoreWhy Do My Kids Hate Getting Dressed So Much?
Posted on 2/7/2021
Why do my kids hate getting dressed so much?! They are 2 and 5. It inevitably causes a battle, and when we finally depart someone is crying. I can’t get the diaper changed or clothes on, and the 5...
Read MoreGrandson Needs to be Held More Accountable
Posted on 1/15/2021
I just pulled an old John article out of my drawer that I have had for years. It was about how therapy can be detrimental to a child and rarely works. Also talked about kids emotions and feelings...
Read MoreEight year old does what she wants when grandma says "No"
Posted on 12/29/2020
I have an eight year old granddaughter who will ask if she can do something, or I tell her she can't do something and she turns right around nonchalantly and does it anyway. What can I do?
Read More8-Year-Old Needs a Wake-Up Call
Posted on 12/20/2020
My 8-year old daughter has been really struggling with the same few bad habits for months. For one, she almost never obeys or follows directions the first time she’s told. She’s not disrespectful,...
Read MoreAvoid Micromanaging Tweens Peer Group
Posted on 12/15/2020
What should I do if my daughters only friends are bad influences on her and not people I want her being friends with? One is a lesbian, one has anxiety issues and they both are obsessed with Tik...
Read MoreTwo Year Old is a Whole Different Animal!
Posted on 12/11/2020
Good morning. My husband and I have six children, ranging 3 months to 9 years. Our first son Ryan Samuel is 2 years old as of October 4. He is a whole different animal compared to the girls. We...
Read MoreTeens and Technology: Education is Key for Safety
Posted on 10/14/2020
We have not allowed our 3 children ages 12, 14 and 15 to have cell phones. They also do not have Social Media accounts. They are allowed to text or FaceTime friends or cousins using our phones. ...
Read MoreParenting a Disrespectful Teen with Divorced Parents
Posted on 10/10/2020
Almost two years ago my husband left (affair) and we are in a very difficult divorce. We are not friendly and don’t communicate other than texting. We have four children together and have 50/50...
Read MoreDisrespectful 8-Year-Old
Posted on 9/19/2020
We have noticed more ungrateful and entitled behavior in my 8 year old son recently. During a trip to the zoo, he became upset and was rude and disrespectful when I would not buy him food and ice...
Read MoreWelcome to the Terrible Twos!
Posted on 8/30/2020
When I get ready in the morning I let my 21 month old play with cotton balls and bandaids and other non harmful bathroom supplies. When I was done I told him to pick up the the cotton balls (he...
Read MoreCar Seat Blues with 2-Year-Old
Posted on 6/4/2020
Hi our son is about 2 years and 3 months old and he has decided that he doesn't like being strapped into his carseat. As soon as I pull out of the driveway (sometimes before), he will slip his...
Read MoreDisrespectful Tween
Posted on 5/22/2020
My 11 year old daughter gets upset when I correct her and calls me names in her heart not aloud; but she later tells me those rude things and apologises. (The most recent name she called me...
Read MoreConquering a Three-Year Old Quarantine Quagmire
Posted on 5/5/2020
my son is 3 yr and 3 month old,he was very careful and neat. recently he started to get very aggressive especially during the quarantine in the house. He has been staying home for a month now. He...
Read MoreFood for Thought: To Obey or not To Obey--That is the Contention
Posted on 4/22/2020
I have a 2.5 year old who isn't speaking yet but understands the word "no". She has developed a habit of throwing food. This is not something she does occasionally, but for the majority of every...
Read MoreCo-Parenting precautions continued
Posted on 3/29/2020
My 7 year old son has picked up on some terrible slang while with his father. Everything is “banging mate” as one example. It sounds horrendous. How do I stop this?
Read MorePre-Teen: A Lingering Fever
Posted on 3/24/2020
We are having some trouble with our 12 year old son. I can see how things have progressed and how we haven't quite followed the Rosemond plan. He is very rude with his sisters, he talks back a lot...
Read More6 Strikes in 1 At-bat
Posted on 3/15/2020
Hi John, my 9yr old daughter has taken to raising her voice, screaming, arguing, sarcasm and just downright disrespect when things aren't going her way. We have a target misbehavior chart and she...
Read MoreTalking v. Action; Reacting v. Responding
Posted on 3/2/2020
We have discovered our 16-year daughter has experimented with alcohol twice that we know of, small amounts, and with no denial. She actually confessed to the 2 accounts when questioned about a...
Read MoreThe Terrible Twos Part II: The Teen Years
Posted on 2/27/2020
my daughter is 14 years old and she thinks she is crazy in love for a boy in her school , same grade. She doesn't have a smart phone . But she bought an old phone from a friend for 80 dollars and...
Read More6 Year Old Laughs When She Gets In Trouble
Posted on 1/13/2020
Good Morning, We have been using the ticket system and it's worked well. I have a 6 year old girl, who seems to have thrived from it until recently. Now when she loses a ticket she says "i...
Read MoreTime for a Reset
Posted on 1/12/2020
Clarification to my follow up question: When you say impose consequences... often my consequences are extra chores. I do not know what else to offer as a consequence. They're too young to take...
Read MoreAlpha Speech is Key for Getting Kids to Obey
Posted on 1/10/2020
I have 2 girls, 9 & 6. They will not obey. They’ll lie that they did something and I have to verify completion or it’s never done. I used the ticket system and I had to take away every privilege...
Read MoreRelationship Reboot
Posted on 12/9/2019
This is a Part II to an early question submitted about a very strong-willed and increasingly mouthy 16-year old daughter. Please bear with someone who has subscribed for YEARS without submitting...
Read MoreManaging Misbehavior on Vacation
Posted on 11/16/2019
After a long string of troubling incidents involving our 7yr old (soon to be 8) son, we decided to try John's "kicking out of the garden" strategy. We are going on vacation (gone 9 days) next...
Read More17 YO Girl Plays Blame Game
Posted on 10/3/2019
This was my last question and needed to help answer this question: John, I have read many of your books and listen to your podcast regularly. I am a Christian and agree with your biblical...
Read MoreCustody Decision For 17 YO
Posted on 9/26/2019
John, I have read many of your books and listen to your podcast regularly. I am a Christian and agree with your biblical parenting principles. However, I am divorce from an atheist and he is...
Read More7 yro needs a check up from the good old Dr.
Posted on 8/26/2019
I am starting my 3rd year of homeschooling my son who is now a 7 year old 2nd grader. And this year I’ve added my 5 year old kindergartener. I have struggled with the 7 year old obeying me...
Read MoreDefining family morals.
Posted on 8/9/2019
My husband and I recently found out that our 16 year old son is having sex with his girlfriend. As you can imagine, we are extremely disappointed. We aren't sure what to do, if anything. Our...
Read More6 YO Girl Lies, Defies, & Connives
Posted on 7/26/2019
After reading The Well-Behaved Child last spring, I started my then 5yo daughter on the ticket system. It worked quite well. Generally, I was already doing many of things Dr. Rosemond suggested...
Read More8 yro needs to learn to give some R-E-S-P-E-C-T
Posted on 7/11/2019
I have 3 sons: 4,6,8. My oldest has been a challenge for us. He does well academically. There are some requests at school to have him listen or think through questions before asking. But these...
Read More16 YO Boy Loses Job, Lies, & Vapes
Posted on 7/8/2019
Our 16 you son was fired from his first job today at a pet grooming shop. We know the owner as we've been taking our pets there for over 9 years. The owner called us to explain that our son had...
Read MoreIt's Not Too Late!
Posted on 7/8/2019
Semi-independence has reared its ugly head in our youngest who goes off to college in the fall. Our mostly obedient and kindhearted daughter has basically grown a head so big we are surprised she...
Read MoreSoon to be 4 yro needs to know who's in control
Posted on 6/29/2019
Hello, what is a good discipline measure to use on my 3 year old son who is soon to be 4 years old? Time out does not seem to work anymore. He yells at us, slaps the walls, and outright tells us...
Read More15 yo Daughter and Foolish Friends
Posted on 6/15/2019
15 year old daughter has been vaping, possible drinking & lying. She has put inappropriate photos referencing vaping, getting high and raiding our liquor cabinet on her Instagram only seen by...
Read More4 and 5 year old brothers tag team Mom
Posted on 6/12/2019
My older boy, age 5 has been on the ticket system for about 9 months. He starts the day with 3 tickets and his misbehaviors are screaming at us and not obeying us. My younger boy, 4 has recently...
Read More13yo struggles
Posted on 5/29/2019
My son is 13. He will be starting 8th grade this year. He got 5 detentions and two phone calls to the school from other parents saying he was bothering their kids. The detentions were for...
Read MoreKicking An Angry 17 Year Old Out Of The Garden of Eden
Posted on 4/13/2019
Our 17 year old son is completely out of control. None of the consequences that we have given him have helped. His biggest problem is his angry outbursts. He has destroyed his relationship with...
Read MorePrevailing not Travailing
Posted on 3/9/2019
My 14 year old daughter was mad at me about a consequence I gave her after clearly telling her what the expectations were. She knew what the rules were and broke them so I gave her the...
Read MoreMeaningful or Logical?
Posted on 3/1/2019
Having a hard time with my 3.5 year old boy and what would be a logical consequence - every morning and after nap time he struggles with getting out of bed reasonably. He usually wails and...
Read MorePrepare to lead before leading.
Posted on 2/11/2019
My 11-year-old son tells lies and avoids the truth even when he knows he's been caught, he will argue every point he disagrees with, he will disobey punishment by simply walking away. We do not...
Read MoreThe Terrible 12's
Posted on 2/7/2019
A few months have passed. This school year seems to have been a big step for my now 12 year old. We have been struggling most of the school year and just got his grades for the second quarter. The...
Read MoreThe Defiant Young Adult
Posted on 1/31/2019
My son turns 18 tomorrow. He seems to think this means he can do whatever he wants, including not doing what I ask. He is picking his girlfriend up at the airport this evening and I told him he...
Read MoreDiscipline Drama Take 2
Posted on 1/20/2019
How do you get a 38month old child to comply? I have a little girl who says no to almost everything I tell/ask her to do. What do I do if she just doesn’t do It? Make her sit in her chair until...
Read MoreAvoid Making Mountains out of Molehills
Posted on 1/18/2019
Our 12-year-old daughter is raising concerns (both ours and at least one of her teachers') with violence in her writing. Last fall she asked me to read over a fictional short story she had written...
Read MoreIntro To The Parent-Centered Family
Posted on 1/10/2019
I have a four year old whom I am wondering is just being a kid....she does seek our attention but we have daily reading together and about 30 min play of the afternoon. I stay home with her and...
Read More14 year old farmer's son is disrespectful to Mother
Posted on 12/31/2018
My son, who turned 14 in November, has become very disrespectful to his mother. We live on a farm and the place is not clean to his liking. He thinks his mother is lazy, won't pick up after...
Read Morechildren not listening
Posted on 12/23/2018
Hello. A tiny bit about us: I had 5 children in 4.5 years: 3 girls then twin boys, now 6, 4.5, 3, & 18 mos (x2). I stay at home and do not work. The 6 yr old is in Kinder and other two girls...
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