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When Grandma is a Softie

Posted on 4/5/2017

Our children are very close with their grandparents. We do not live in the same city as them but they are only an hour away and they see them very regularly. We expect our children to use...

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Sweet Stuff

Posted on 3/26/2017

HI there! Do you have any advice how much of the sweet stuff kids should be allowed? We generally do not eat chocolates, lollies or cakes on a regular basis. If we do, it would be the...

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Special Place vs. Timeout

Posted on 3/25/2017

Can you explain to me the difference between a "special place" [ex. for screaming] and a time out, as well as how one enforces the child staying in said place?

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Push Back on Toilet Training...From Others

Posted on 3/22/2017

Not a question so much as... OMG we are about to start toilet training with N/$75 and getting so much negative feedback! I keep being sent these two studies (in articles)... One is that my...

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Thoughts on Love and Logic

Posted on 3/7/2017

How do you feel about the love and logic series/method? There has been a lot of discussion at my son's preschool about love and logic and I am curious about what your thoughts are. Thanks!

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Please?

Posted on 2/28/2017

Can you give me your advice on the use of the word "please" when addressing our children? Should we be avoiding this word when issuing instructions to the children, but otherwise it is fine? ...

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How Much Time Away From Home?

Posted on 2/15/2017

I asked this earlier and got a great response but wanted to ask a different way....how much time is too much time away from home? Is one day a week, three times a week? What would be the...

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Error: No Chart

Posted on 1/25/2017

Hi! Where is the chart for timeout mentioned in the Ticket article? "3. (Optional) A time-out of five to fifteen minutes can also be enforced (see chart...

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Get Rid of All the Psychiatrists?

Posted on 1/23/2017

John, I listen to your radio shows and believe every word you speak. Is there a possibly your show can include actions we citizens can take to eradicate psychiatry and psychology from American...

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Setting up the garden in your home.

Posted on 1/22/2017

Hi my question is regarding the kicking out of the garden . If the child's room is stripped of all but what is needed, all toys are taken away as well as tv and any activities outside of the...

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How to Hire a Parent Coach

Posted on 1/20/2017

Hi, My wife and I are thinking of hiring a coach. Is there a place on the website that shows all the coaches or do we simply just fill out the form and wait for someone to contact us?...

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Sibling Conflict

Posted on 1/5/2017

In regards to siblings and tattling. Do you have any ideas other than the "if nobody is hurt no tattling" rule.

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Tackling Minor Issues

Posted on 12/31/2016

My wife and I are discussing smaller issues in our household that we want to train our children in. Examples of these issues are leaving lights on when leaving a room, shutting door during rest...

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Kudos on Advice

Posted on 12/9/2016

No question just a heartfelt thank you. My daughter is about three weeks into her new school and I can't believe what a difference it has made. There was hardly any kicking and screaming, just...

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Is the Boy Autistic?

Posted on 12/7/2016

My son's teacher is concerned about him being autistic. She says he is having trouble staying focused in class, stares into space and sits quietly laughing to himself and talks to himself. Is this...

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Boarding school?

Posted on 11/14/2016

Dear John, What are your opinions about sending a boy to boarding school for high school? When is it a good idea and when is it not? What are the circumstances within the boy and within the...

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How to Like Stepparents

Posted on 11/9/2016

Hi! We are a blended family. My husband and I both have custody of our children. What can parents do to encourage a good relationship between their children and their spouse (the children's...

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Husband and Wife Not on Same Parenting Page

Posted on 11/7/2016

Our issue has more to do with my spouse & me being on the same page & communicating. We have both read John's books, my hubby knows I'm a big proponent of his methods and says he "agrees" but,...

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The marriage came second.

Posted on 11/5/2016

We are retirement age. I already have and my husband plans to soon. It is a blended family. My husband's daughter continues to make poor choices and knows her dad will pay for everything. He...

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Not so friendly friend

Posted on 10/28/2016

What advice would you give to a child whose friend at one point called her a chicken for not wanting to be rude to an older man who asked that she stop playing in some water at a local park (he...

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Achieving in School

Posted on 10/25/2016

HI! In John's book "Fail-Safe Formula for Helping Your Child Success in School" he mentions a weekly high school report card in chapter 4. He also mentions that you should never require more than...

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Homework Help for Child Below Grade Level

Posted on 9/27/2016

Should rules for a fostering to adopt child who is severely behind in grade level have a different set of rules for daily homework help than what you have set forth in you books?

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Laptop Use in Elementary School

Posted on 9/14/2016

Good Morning. My daughter's school wants to introduce a new IT vision starting from next year with the year 4 class. It would involve the parents and the school together purchasing laptops for...

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Husband and Wife Disagree on Allowance Tied to Chores

Posted on 9/7/2016

My husband and I cannot seem to agree on an issue concerning our children. It involves not tying their allowance to their chores. I have read numerous articles of Rosemond's articles/books that...

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Expectations for Safety and Manners

Posted on 8/27/2016

What are your thoughts on asking if a family has guns in the house (and asking how they are locked up) before letting my children go over to play? Also, what are your thoughts on insisting...

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Definition of Psychiatry?

Posted on 8/13/2016

Thank you for the definition of Psychology (Post-Modern Religion by Faith). What is your definition of Psychiatry? It appears to me that psychology ranks children in the family as 1st class...

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Equal Penalty for Sibling Conflict

Posted on 7/26/2016

We have been using the disturbing the peace system with good success. What do you suggest in the situation where one child is out of the house when his siblings get strikes? For example, Child A...

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Parents United

Posted on 7/14/2016

Looking for article stating how important it is for parents to show respect for each other and to collaborate on how to deal with children and not undermine each other

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Is it working?

Posted on 6/11/2016

I have been working for some time with the ticket system, mostly targeting listening to adults. The exception being he loses all tickets for hitting. My son is not responding well. I expected it...

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Follow-Up: Multiple Issues

Posted on 6/1/2016

John, yes we are christians and we are in new jersey?

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Why Not Say Yes to the Small Stuff?

Posted on 5/30/2016

Hi john, I just read your post--impulse control, the hallmark of life. The one about a kid getting a Mohawk. I tend to see parenting so very similar to you--thus why I own several of your books...

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Grandparents Raising Grandchild

Posted on 5/30/2016

Grandparents have been raising 6-year old due to parental stupidity: However, they "seem" to be getting their act together and recently, child said she loves us but wants to live and be with ...

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Micromanaging

Posted on 5/24/2016

In response to my question about my 6 year old and her violin practice, you said: "The first thing is to make sure you aren't micromanaging. " Gulp. I'm sure you're right. Would you please...

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Husband or Dog?

Posted on 5/24/2016

Our family has a 1 year old German Shepherd that we got as a puppy. My husband and I talked about how we would raise the dog before we got her. I would be doing most of the work with her because I...

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Open Adoption Rights

Posted on 5/19/2016

What can you tell me about my, and my son's rights in open adoption? The mother has missed last two court scheduled visits. Made no other contact since. Father missed last scheduled visit. Wants...

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Grandmother's Spoiling is Making Children Ill

Posted on 4/20/2016

Hi, my kids are intolerant to dairies and gluten and complex sugar like withe sugar. My mother doesn't care about that. When I don't look, she gives my kids food behind my back. My kids are...

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Meal Time Attitude

Posted on 4/11/2016

Recently we are having a problem with our daughters attitude at meal times. As soon as any food is placed in front of her she immediately starts jerking her body around,whining,grunting, making...

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Parenting in Step Families

Posted on 4/5/2016

We are a struggling blended family. My husband has 3 children (ages 7, 12, 17) from a previous marriage. They would most likely still be married if they saw eye to eye on how life/children...

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Preparing a Child for the World

Posted on 4/4/2016

What is the appropriate age for a girl to explain that no one should be touching her inappropriately and if something ever happens that she can always talk to mom and dad about it?

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Husband and Wife Not on Same Page

Posted on 3/15/2016

Any advice for a wife whose husband is not on board with these ideas, other than the obvious marriage counseling. He doesn't actively discourage the techniques but I am continually reminded that...

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Sleepovers?

Posted on 3/10/2016

My husband and I have decided that we do not want to allow our children to participate in sleep overs. We have moved to a new city and are just making new friends and meeting new families (it's a...

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husband/wife not on same page

Posted on 3/4/2016

Is there a way to get my husband on board with the ticket system for our son? He says the bible says spare the rod... So the only discipline he needs is a spanking when my husband is angry enough.

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Curing ADHD

Posted on 3/3/2016

Hi, I just finished reading "The Diseasing of America's Children" by John Rosemond. My two older boys have been "diagnosed" with ADHD. The advice in the book is helping a great deal. My question...

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Son "exposes" self to classmate

Posted on 3/2/2016

I need advice. My son was recently suspended for two days from his elementary school for unzipping his pants and showing his private part. In the past, we have spoken with him about private parts...

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LGBT Issues in Schools (Australia)

Posted on 2/22/2016

Good Morning, We live in Australia and so far gay and lesbian marriage has not been legalised - but there is a big push for it to be so. They have recently introduced into hundreds of schools...

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Follow Through

Posted on 1/8/2016

Hello :-) When using the ticket method what do you do if the child refuses to go or stay in their room? Thank you

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Sunday School Curriculum

Posted on 11/17/2015

I am wondering about a Sunday School program, called Godly Play. It appears to be a Montessori type approach. Our church is looking for a Sunday School / Faith Forming class structure for maybe...

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Different Parenting Styles

Posted on 11/13/2015

How do you recommend dealing with other parents with different parenting ideals? ie. they attachment parent, etc. Also, do you have any tips or tricks with how to give advice without "giving...

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To Trick/Treat or Not

Posted on 10/27/2015

My husband and I are having difficulty knowing how to handle a oroblem. We don't believe we as Christians should celebrate Halloween. Our three and a half year old grandson has seen the teachers...

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Missing out on Extracurricular Activities

Posted on 10/15/2015

I thought that you said when they are grounded to their room for the day that it meant no extracurricular activities either, i.e. soccer practice, dance, piano lessons, etc. We don't force our...

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