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Consequence Needs to Produce Permanent Memory for 6-Year-Old Tantrum
Posted on 9/29/2009
ISSUING CONSEQUENCES EQUALS WELL-BEHAVED CHILDREN From the Mailbag: A Charlotte woman writes to the Observer that I should get out in the real world more and meet the "mothers and fathers of...
Read MoreBack-To-School Tips for Parents
Posted on 9/8/2009
BACK-TO-SCHOOL TIPS FOR PARENTS Several teachers asked if I would reprint a column that first appeared about 10 years ago. The subject is my five top back-to-school tips for parents. Before...
Read More5-Year-Old Girl with Short-Lived Oppositional Defiant Disorder
Posted on 9/23/2008
BY OBEYING, SHE SHOWS HER LOVE Another creative mother reports that immediately after her fifth birthday, her daughter came down with oppositional defiant disorder. One morning, in the midst of...
Read More6-Year-Old Boys - Moaning, Eye Rolling, Door Slamming, Stomping
Posted on 7/22/2008
TRY '3 STRIKES' WITH REBELLIOUS 6-YEAR-OLDS Q: How should we handle the noises (moaning), the gestures (eye rolling) and the posturing (door slamming, stomping) that ensue so often around here...
Read MoreControl Children in Public Places
Posted on 5/27/2008
PARENTS, YOU MIGHT BE USED TO YOUR WILD CHILD; WE AREN'T It is a sign of these postmodern times that a simple, straightforward bit of seemingly innocuous news can turn quickly into a...
Read More18-Month-Old Boy Crys at Restaurants
Posted on 4/1/2008
CRYING AT RESTAURANTS IS TOUGH BEHAVIOR TO CHANGE, SO EAT IN Q. How should I handle an 18-month-old who cries at a restaurant because he wants out of his high chair to sit with me or someone...
Read More18-Year-Old Boy Defiant
Posted on 3/11/2008
Defiant 18-year-old Q. We have a son who just turned 18 (but is still a junior in high school) and a 14-year-old freshman daughter. While my husband and I were away, our son went to visit his...
Read MoreChildren Not Putting Backpacks in Proper Place
Posted on 3/4/2008
PARENTS SHARE THEIR 3 STORIES OF 'TOUGH LOVE' TURNAROUNDS It's one thing to give advice on the rearing of children, which is what I do through this column. It's quite another to share...
Read More7-Year-Old Boy Talking Back, Arguing, and Lying
Posted on 3/4/2008
PARENTS SHARE THEIR 3 STORIES OF 'TOUGH LOVE' TURNAROUNDS It's one thing to give advice on the rearing of children, which is what I do through this column. It's quite another to share...
Read MoreHigh School Girl's Dropping Grades and Attitude
Posted on 3/4/2008
PARENTS SHARE THEIR 3 STORIES OF 'TOUGH LOVE' TURNAROUNDS It's one thing to give advice on the rearing of children, which is what I do through this column. It's quite another to share...
Read More6-Year-Old Boy Whining, Throwing Tantrums, Running Away from Parents
Posted on 1/22/2008
ACT YOUR AGE, OR IT'S PARADISE LOST Q. We recently kicked our 6-year-old out of the Garden of Eden for constant whining, frequent tantrums, running away in stores, and other behaviors typical...
Read More5-Year-Old Girl Taking Things From Parents Without Permission
Posted on 12/25/2007
IS 5-YEAR-OLD MANIPULATIVE? NOT REALLY - SHE'S JUST CURIOUS EDITOR'S NOTE: John Rosemond is on vacation. This column first appeared in 1985. Of all the myths associated with children and...
Read MoreGrandmother Undermining Parent Authority
Posted on 11/6/2007
Q: My boys are 7 and 2. I have always been an "I tell you once" type of mom, which is how my mother raised me. Ironically, when I try to discipline my kids when my mom is around, she becomes very...
Read More6-Year-Old Boy Throwing Wild Tantrums
Posted on 10/30/2007
ARE BRAIN CHEMICALS TO BLAME FOR 6-YEAR-OLD'S BAD BEHAVIOR? Recently the parents of a 6-year-old boy asked my advice concerning his daily, sometimes violent tantrums which had been ongoing...
Read More15-Year-Old with Moody, Negative Attitude
Posted on 6/12/2007
NO SUCH THING AS A PROBLEM-FREE CHILD It is not the responsibility of parents to make sure that a child enters adulthood problem-free. That is an impossible dream, yet it seems many parents...
Read MoreToo Big For Their Britches
Posted on 5/8/2007
HAVE YOU LET YOUR CHILDREN GET TOO BIG FOR THEIR BRITCHES? When I was a child, my parents found frequent reason to tell me that I was a small fish in a big pond. Sometimes, to keep me on my...
Read More8th Grader - Defiant, School Issues, and Video Games
Posted on 2/13/2007
THROW AWAY THE XBOX, AND YOU'LL CHANGE SON'S ATTITUDE Q:Our eighth-grade son is obviously intelligent, and is in his school's gifted and talented program. Furthermore, he scored in the top 5...
Read MoreKindergartener with Attitude and Sassy Talk
Posted on 2/6/2007
Little Jekyll and Hyde Q: Every morning, I send my sweet, well-behaved son to kindergarten and every evening I face a teenager. When I tell him to do or stop doing something, he gives me an...
Read MoreRude, Disrespectful 8-Year-Old Has Bullying Behavior
Posted on 11/14/2006
STOP 8-YEAR-OLD'S BULLYING BEHAVIOR BEFORE IT GETS WORSE Q: My 8-year-old son is a poor sport. He's been asked to leave several sports programs because of rudeness to other players and...
Read MoreDon't Treat 3-Year-Old Like an Adult
Posted on 7/4/2006
DON'T TREAT PRECOCIOUS 3-YEAR-OLD LIKE AN ADULT Q: Our 3-year-old daughter is very intelligent for her age. I know all parents think their children are smart but several doctors have told us...
Read MoreChild Forced to Write Letter of Apology to Teacher
Posted on 8/30/2005
CHILD FORCED TO A WRITE LETTER OF APOLOGY - HORRORS! A friend of mine in Virginia happened to be looking in on her fourth-grade son's class one day when he talked back to his teacher. My...
Read More8-Year-Old Soils Pants
Posted on 5/31/2005
BOY 'FORGETS' TO USE TOILET AT SCHOOL Q: My oldest son, soon to be 8, still soils his underwear during school or recess. Some of it is that he is embarrassed to use the toilet in the...
Read More29-Month-Old Outbursts
Posted on 5/24/2005
IGNORE TODDLER'S HARMLESS OUTBURSTS TOO MUCH ATTENTION TO MINI-TANTRUMS COULD LEAD TO ESCALATION Q: Our 29-month-old son is mostly well-behaved. But when he doesn't get his way or becomes...
Read MoreDefiant 14-Year-Old
Posted on 5/10/2005
TEEN'S DEFIANCE NOT A REASON TO LIGHTEN TASTE OF REAL WORLD Q: The punishments I give my 14-year-old daughter - mostly for blatant defiance of the rules - seem to make her even more defiant....
Read MoreMisbehaving Children
Posted on 4/12/2005
WHY DO PARENTS DEFEND CHILDREN'S BAD BEHAVIOR? The mother of two small children writes that when she takes them to indoor play areas she often finds herself dealing with parents who not...
Read More2- and 3-Year-Old Unruly on Disney Trip
Posted on 3/8/2005
A WHOLE NEW WORLD: TOTS TURN UNRULY ON DISNEY TRIP Q: Our two girls, ages 3 and 2, are very well behaved both at home and in public, so my husband and I decided to treat them to a memorable...
Read MoreTeen's Hormones and Unruly Emotions
Posted on 2/1/2005
DON'T BLAME TEENAGERS' HORMONES FOR THEIR UNRULY EMOTIONS Q: During a recent talk show appearance, a psychologist said that runaway hormone levels often cause the rational part of the...
Read More6-Year-Old Disruptive at Home and School
Posted on 1/18/2005
SOME OLD-FASHIONED DISCIPLINE SAVES ANGST, TIME AND MONEY A collection of "parenting shorts": First, an absolutely true story from my ever-growing "True Stories of Psychobabble" file,...
Read More5-Year-Old Saying Disrespectful Comments about Parents
Posted on 1/18/2005
See no evil, hear no evil A 5-year-old girl, when sent to her room for punishment, can be heard talking about her parents in highly disrespectful language. The father asked what they...
Read MoreEmotional Outbursts of Hate
Posted on 1/18/2005
The love-hate thing Q: Is it disrespectful for a child to yell "I hate you!" at a parent? A: Most people, it seems, think so. I don't. The difference between a disrespectful statement...
Read More7-Year-Old Homework Issue and 5-Year-Old Discipline Issue
Posted on 12/28/2004
LEAVING CHILD BEHIND NEVER PROPER INSTEAD OF PRETENDING TO DRIVE OFF AS PUNISHMENT, PULL PRIVILEGES LATER ON Q: Yesterday, while I was helping my 7-year-old daughter review for her spelling...
Read More4- and 8-Year-Old Unruly
Posted on 11/30/2004
UNRULINESS IS REACTION TO STRESS IN THE FAMILY Q: My husband and I have a 4-year-old boy and an 8-year-old girl. They both whine and cry when they do not get their way and do not seem to think...
Read More8-Year-Old Not Wearing Glasses at School
Posted on 11/16/2004
Q: We recently discovered that our 8-year-old daughter is not wearing her new glasses at school. Even though they are really quite attractive, she says they make her look "nerdy." We have tried...
Read More16-Year-Old With Many Issues
Posted on 8/10/2004
KEEP STEPSON GROUNDED FOR COMMUNITY'S SAKE Q: Life with my 16-year-old stepson, who lives with my husband and me because his mother is a mess, has been a battle from day one. School has always...
Read More24-Month-Old Runs Away From Parent
Posted on 5/4/2004
CAN'T OUTRUN THAT 2-YEAR-OLD? OUTSMART HER Q: When I call my 24-month-old daughter to come to me, she takes off running like a bat out of you-know-where. She obviously thinks it's a game...
Read More5-Year-Old Outbursts
Posted on 3/30/2004
DON'T WORRY ABOUT STOMPING Q: Our 5-year-old son, when he doesn't get his way or is told to do something he doesn't want to do, will sometimes give the floor or table one quick pound of the...
Read MoreDefiant 4-Year-Old
Posted on 3/9/2004
DEFIANT CHILD NEEDS DOSE OF 'TICKETS' Q: I need help with my 4-year-old daughter. She is our second child and a major handful. As I write this letter she is in her room for the day, due to...
Read More8-Year-Old Tells Mom "I Hate You!"
Posted on 1/13/2004
Q: Occasionally, when I discipline my 8-year-old daughter by, say, taking away a privilege because she's disobeyed me, she screams that she hates me. It seems to me that this is disrespectful....
Read More20-Month-Old Climbing Into Crib for New Baby
Posted on 1/6/2004
CONSEQUENCES OFTEN LOST ON TOTS Q: I am expecting my third child in six months. I put up the baby's crib this week with the intention of teaching my 20-month-old "monkey" to stay out of it. She...
Read MoreToo Many Consequences for 5-Year-Old
Posted on 1/6/2004
Q: The other evening, while playing a racing game, my 5-year-old began getting upset because he was not winning, so I shut off the game. At that point, he went absolutely ballistic, screaming that...
Read MoreDisciplining 5-Year-Old Adopted Child
Posted on 11/25/2003
DON'T BE AFRAID TO DISCIPLINE ADOPTED CHILD Q: We recently adopted a 5-year-old girl from China who had spent her early childhood in an orphanage. Before bringing her home, we read several...
Read MoreDisciplining 4- and 8-Year-Old at Grandparents for the Holidays
Posted on 11/11/2003
GRANDPARENTS WHO LET CHAOS REIGN YOU CAN'T CHANGE THEM, SO JUST LIMIT THE TIME THEY'LL INDULGE YOUR KIDS Q: It has become tradition that every year, during the holidays, my entire family...
Read More28-Month-Old Gets in Last Word
Posted on 11/4/2003
Q: What's the best way to handle a toddler - my 28-month-old son - who says "No" or "I'm not going to" (he doesn't yell, but his tone is haughty) when you tell him to do something, but complies...
Read More4-Year-Old Refuses to Dress for School
Posted on 9/23/2003
A LITTLE DISCIPLINE WON'T DAMAGE CHILD Several columns ago, I related the story of an encounter with the mother of a defiant 4-year-old girl. The child had refused to dress for school in the...
Read MoreDefiant 4-Year-Old
Posted on 9/2/2003
MOM WON BATTLE, NOT WAR AGAINST DEFIANCE The mother of a 4-year-old girl tells her daughter to dress for school. The child replies, with defiance dripping from every syllable, "I don't want to,...
Read More15-Year-Old Refuses to Wear Bands on Braces
Posted on 8/5/2003
LIFE GETS SIMPLER WHEN PARENTS ARE STRICT I decided to depart from my usual format and let a reader write this column. Occasionally, I get letters from parents telling me how they've solved...
Read MoreDoes Time-Out Work with Agressive 2-Year-Old?
Posted on 7/22/2003
Q: Is it OK to use timeout with a child who's barely 2? While I was watching church nursery today, a 2-year-old boy started pushing and hitting the other children. I put him in a chair every time...
Read MoreMost Effective Consequence for 28-Month-Old
Posted on 6/3/2003
Q: I have a friend who puts her 28-month-old son in his room for several hours if he does something really bad, such as bite her. When he's put there, he cries for a while, then plays. She uses a...
Read MoreToday's Mom is Afraid of Her Child
Posted on 5/6/2003
TODAY'S MOM LIKELY FEARS HER CHILD A short collection of musings on the nature of parenting and its current condition in America: By the time your child is 24 months of age, he is making...
Read More3-Year-Old Acting Out in Public Places
Posted on 4/8/2003
SHOW 3-YEAR-OLD SHE'LL PAY FOR FITS Q: My daughter and first child is 3 years, 8 months old. She is generally well-behaved except for a bad habit she has of screaming and running away from me...
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