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Toilet Training Must Start Early

Posted on 12/23/2003

TOILET TRAINING MUST START EARLY THE LONGER PARENTS WAIT AFTER 24 MONTHS, THE HARDER IT WILL BE Is it easier to house-train a 6-month-old puppy or a 1-year-old dog? The puppy, right? If you...

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18-Month-Old Refuses to Sleep in Bed

Posted on 11/4/2003

ADVICE FOR PARENTS OF TODDLERS Q: My 18-month-old son made the transition from crib to toddler bed almost seven weeks ago. He did wonderfully for the first couple of weeks, but now he refuses...

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28-Month-Old Gets in Last Word

Posted on 11/4/2003

Q: What's the best way to handle a toddler - my 28-month-old son - who says "No" or "I'm not going to" (he doesn't yell, but his tone is haughty) when you tell him to do something, but complies...

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Potty-Trained 24-Month-Old Wetting the Bed

Posted on 10/14/2003

PARENTING NUGGETS' OFFER SOLUTIONS TO EVERYDAY CHALLENGES Every so often, through my Web site usually, a parent - well, actually, a mom - will send me an especially creative idea she stumbled...

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Mom Does Not Use Sippy Cups

Posted on 10/14/2003

PARENTING NUGGETS' OFFER SOLUTIONS TO EVERYDAY CHALLENGES Every so often, through my Web site usually, a parent - well, actually, a mom - will send me an especially creative idea she stumbled...

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How to Get a Toddler to Play by Himself for Long Periods of Time

Posted on 7/29/2003

More Great Ideas Department: To the question, "How does one get a toddler to play by himself for reasonably long periods of time?" I suggest creating and operating a toy lending library out of...

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24-Month-Old Toilet Training

Posted on 7/29/2003

Great Feedback Department: As I boarded a jet recently, one of the flight attendants recognized me and reminded me that I'd been her passenger several years earlier, when her first child, a boy,...

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Does Time-Out Work with Agressive 2-Year-Old?

Posted on 7/22/2003

Q: Is it OK to use timeout with a child who's barely 2? While I was watching church nursery today, a 2-year-old boy started pushing and hitting the other children. I put him in a chair every time...

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Toilet Training By Age 2

Posted on 7/15/2003

SHOW RESPECT FOR 2-YEAR-OLD'S INTELLIGENCE Q: I know that you advocate toilet training before the second birthday, but when children grow up too fast as it is, why rush this? A: Toilet...

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2-Year-Old Sleeping Issue

Posted on 7/8/2003

'FAMILY BED' MORE CHAOTIC THAN COZY Q: My 2-year-old grandson has slept with his parents since he was born, but with the birth of a third child (he has a 4-year-old sister), he moved to a bed...

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2-Year-Old is Clingy to Mom

Posted on 6/17/2003

MAKE GOODBYES SHORT AND SWEET Q: My husband and I have a 5-year-old daughter and a 2-year-old son. Our son is in a very clingy phase. Three months ago he had a very bad episode of separation...

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Most Effective Consequence for 28-Month-Old

Posted on 6/3/2003

Q: I have a friend who puts her 28-month-old son in his room for several hours if he does something really bad, such as bite her. When he's put there, he cries for a while, then plays. She uses a...

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Children and Computers

Posted on 5/27/2003

LIMIT KIDS' PC USE TILL THEY'RE LITERATE Were he alive today, Samuel Taylor Coleridge might well have written, "PCs, PCs in every class, and no child is made to think." Psychologist Jane...

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Dad Gives High-Fives to 2-Year-Old

Posted on 1/28/2003

THE CASE FOR DEEP-SIXING HIGH-FIVES Q: My husband, who is a sports fanatic, has taught our 2-year-old son to high-five, which our son does by hauling off and slapping the other person's hand as...

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20- and 32-Month Old Playtime

Posted on 1/21/2003

PLAYTIME DOES NOT NEED 'STRUCTURE' Q: I have two toddlers, 20 and 32 months. Beyond 30 minutes of reading and snuggling before bed, how much time each day should I spend involved in activities...

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32-Month-Old is Defiant and Disrespectful at Preschool

Posted on 12/24/2002

Q: I am the mother of two boys: 6 months and 32 months. The difficulty is with the latter. This well-mannered, easy-going, very loving child is having trouble at Mother's Morning Out. This is...

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28-Month-Old Waking Up During the Night

Posted on 11/12/2002

NO NEED FOR PARENTS TO LOSE SLEEP OVER 2-YEAR-OLD'S NIGHTTIME WAKING Q: Our 28-month-old is waking up anywhere from two to five times a night (on a bad night, about every two hours). She comes...

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"Jump-Start" Programs are Worthless

Posted on 10/29/2002

MANNERS FIRST, THEN MOUSE PADS Q: What is your opinion of the spate of computer-driven academic "jump start" programs for children as young as 3, if not younger? All of the mothers in my...

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21-Month-Old Will Not Wear Bike Helmet

Posted on 9/24/2002

REMEMBER, PARENTS, THAT MONKEY UN-SEE, MONKEY UN-DO Q: My husband and I bought a child's bike trailer so we could pull our 21-month-old behind us when we ride. We don't wear helmets, but we...

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Potty Training

Posted on 9/10/2002

DON'T BE BRAINWASHED ABOUT POTTY TRAINING As most folks know, PC stands for politically correct, but the P could just as well stand for psychologically or pediatrically. In any case, what is...

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3-Year-Old Toilet Training

Posted on 7/16/2002

MOM TO EXPERTS: GO TAKE A HIKE! A mother writes that she heeded the advice of a certain nationally known pediatrician (who is also a spokesperson for a manufacturer of disposable diapers) and...

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16-Month-Old Is Not Too Young to Potty Train

Posted on 6/4/2002

POTTY TRAINING: AGE 16 MONTHS IS NOT TOO EARLY, BUT BE PATIENT Q: My husband and I have noticed that our 16-month-old is standing up to pee in his tub every single night. Also, his bowel...

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Better to Toilet Train on Child-Size Potty or Big Toilet?

Posted on 6/4/2002

Q: I'm about to start toilet training my 24-month-old daughter. Is it better to have her learn on a child-size potty or on a child's seat attached to the big toilet? A: This is a matter of...

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30-Month-Old Bedwetting

Posted on 5/21/2002

LET 'DAY-TRAINED' TOT LEARN FROM NIGHTTIME ACCIDENTS Q: I have read that nighttime potty training should occur between 30 and 36 months. My son will be 30 months in just weeks and has been day...

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23-Month-Old Stripping in Crib

Posted on 5/14/2002

Q: My 23-month-old boy has just started stripping at night in his crib. He did it three times last night! I believe he's excited about this new skill. He's almost got his diaper off too. I thought...

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Adoptive Parents Refused to Give Up on Stubborn 2 1/2-Year-Old

Posted on 4/2/2002

MOM'S HAPPY SHE PUT FOOT DOWN Like most people, I love a good story that ends happily. Such is the story I am about to relate. In November, a mom wrote asking for help with her 2...

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Sippy Cups

Posted on 3/19/2002

DISPUTE OVER SIPPY CUPS POINTS TO LAZY PARENTING The front page of The Wall Street Journal on Feb. 12 blared the shocking news: The sippy cup - the spill-free cup used by most American...

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32-Month-Old Potty Training

Posted on 2/26/2002

BOY IS VERY CAPABLE OF POTTY TRAINING Q: I tried toilet training my 32-month-old boy, but after a couple of days of no success, I decided to stop and try again later. My friend says I need to...

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23-Month-Old Unlikely to Recall Traumatic Event

Posted on 1/22/2002

TODDLER UNLIKELY TO RECALL TRAUMATIC EVENT Q: At 23 months (four months ago), our daughter had an experience that was, by adult standards, "traumatic." Without going into detail, it was a...

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26-Month-Old Potty Training Issue

Posted on 11/27/2001

LET SON MANAGE OWN POTTY-TRAINING Q: I've been trying to toilet-train my 26-month-old son for several months now. He will have a good day, then a few bad days, then a good day, and so on....

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Toilet Training and Bedtime Issues

Posted on 11/20/2001

PARENTS ARE GOING BACK TO THE BASICS An analysis of the 3,000-plus questions submitted to date to my Web site suggests the two biggest problems besetting American parents concern the toilet and...

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Mom Concerned about Development Skills of Premature 21-Month-Old

Posted on 10/2/2001

FUDD TALK IS OK FOR 21-MONTH-OLD Q: My 21-month-old was premature. As a consequence, her developmental skills are lagging by approximately three months. I'm especially worried about language...

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30-Month-Old Bedwetting Issue

Posted on 10/2/2001

Child must learn not to wet Q: Our 30-month-old was successfully toilet trained six months ago. We've been using pull-ups at night and during nap time since. When and how should we go about...

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Mom-Care is Generally Better Than Daycare

Posted on 5/22/2001

CLOSED MINDS SHUT OUT VITAL RESEARCH ON DAY CARE We live in the postmodern age, which is characterized by a rampant anti-intellectualism. It matters not, for example, that objective evidence...

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Pacifiers

Posted on 3/6/2001

A LITTLE COMMON SENSE YOU CAN FILE FOR LATER Good Ideas File: Responding to my recent article on pacifiers, a mother writes, "I have three children, ages 5, 7, and 9. When it came time for one...

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Child Older Than 18 Months Should Not Be Allowed to Suck on Pacifier

Posted on 2/6/2001

PARENTS, IT'S TIME TO GROW UP AND PASS ON THE PACIFIER Please bear with me while I rant and rave: What is this business of allowing children older than 6 months to walk/ride/be carried around...

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26-Month-Old Diagnosed with ADHD

Posted on 12/5/2000

DON'T MEDICATE A 2-YEAR-OLD FOR NORMAL RASCALITY A friend of mine participates in a national network of pediatricians who share information and advice with one another through the World Wide...

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Developmental Milestones for Social Behaviors

Posted on 10/17/2000

SOCIAL SKILLS HAVE THEIR MILESTONE AGES, TOO Almost everyone is familiar with the concept of milestones as they relate to a child's developmental "health." For example, the average age of...

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Guidelines for Teaching Toddlers to Share

Posted on 8/29/2000

STOP 'NONSHARING' WITH SWIFT ACTION Last week, after answering a question from the mother of a 5-year-old who was being abused by a 3-year-old playmate, I promised to follow up with guidelines...

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2-Year-Old Biting Others

Posted on 8/8/2000

2-YEAR-OLD'S BITING NEEDS TO BE PUT TO A STOP NOW Q. My brother and his wife have a big problem with their son, Axel, who recently turned 2. For the past 6 months or so, he has been biting...

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Day Care Issues

Posted on 7/11/2000

SCHLESSINGER TAKES OVERLY HARSH STAND ON DAY CARE It was, I suppose, inevitable that people, journalists included, would ask me what I think about the position on children and day care that...

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Experts Recommend Young Children Not Be Allowed on Computers

Posted on 6/27/2000

PEN, PAPER BETTER THAN COMPUTER AS LEARNING TOOL A growing number of experts are recommending that young children not be allowed on computers for any reason at all. These people are not...

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Parents Leaving 18-Month-Old with Grandma for Trip

Posted on 5/23/2000

ENJOY YOUR TRIP - CHILD WILL WELCOME YOU BACK Q. My husband and I are about to take a four-day trip, during which we plan to leave our 18-month-old daughter with my in-laws. Grandma works, but...

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32-Month-Old Waking to go Potty During the Night

Posted on 5/16/2000

'THE DOCTOR' CAN HELP YOUR POTTY TRAINEE Q. Our 32-month-old daughter has been daytime toilet-trained since 26 months. At 29 months, she started getting up once a night to use the potty even...

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2-Year-Old Picking Up Toys

Posted on 5/2/2000

LIMIT THAT 2-YEAR-OLD TO ONE TOY AT A TIME Q. Is it too much to expect a 2-year-old to pick up his toys? Our little boy, when we tell him to pick up his toys, just stands there and looks at...

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30-Month-Old Potty Training

Posted on 4/18/2000

PARENTS TODAY EXAGGERATE PSYCHOLOGY OF TOILET TRAINING I came across an interesting question the other day while reading my e-mail. The mother of a 30-month-old was asking for some direction...

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Parenting at its Well-Intentioned Worst

Posted on 3/21/2000

HEREIN LIES THE TALE OF 'PARENTING AT ITS WELL-INTENTIONED WORST' A few months ago, I told the story of how two friends of mine had handled an incident of flagrant disobedience on the part of...

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Appropriate Amount of Praise for 15-Month-Old

Posted on 3/14/2000

TODDLER WILL SOON BECOME DEPENDENT ON STEADY PRAISE Q. What is the appropriate amount of praise for a 15-month-old? I praise my toddler for specific accomplishments, but I don't make a...

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26-Month-Old Screams When Upset

Posted on 2/29/2000

PUT THE SCREAMER IN HIS PLACE, AND MAKE IT JUST FOR TANTRUMS Q. My youngest, a boy, is 26 months old. When we visited relatives recently, my nephew - three months older - was very aggressive...

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Optimal Time for Toilet Training lies between 18 and 30 Months

Posted on 1/18/2000

TOILET-TRAINING MAY HAVE A WINDOW OF OPPORTUNITY, OPEN AT 18 MONTHS I have addressed the issue of toilet training in previous columns and books. My advice has been to time the initiation of...

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