John's Articles
Remove the Smart Phone, Regain the Child
Posted on 2/7/2017
As regular readers of this column already know, I am completely, one hundred percent opposed to children, including teenagers still living at home, being in possession of smart phones. No parent...
Read MoreA Guide to Kids and Chores
Posted on 1/27/2017
<b><i>Household jobs will help your kids master the mechanics of running a home, and the skills needed for responsible living. Here's how to get them started and encourage their...
Read MoreManners More Important Than Resentful Child
Posted on 1/25/2017
“People almost invariably arrive at their beliefs not on the basis of proof but on the basis of what they find attractive.” So said 17th Century French mathematician and philosopher...
Read MoreIn a Family, Parents' Relationship Comes First
Posted on 12/28/2016
I recently asked a married couple who have three kids, none of whom are yet teens, “Who are the most important people in your family?” Like all good moms and dads of this brave new...
Read MoreThe Effects of 'Parenting' on Child-Rearing
Posted on 10/5/2016
In 1971, a psychologist named Fitzhugh Dodson published a book titled How to Parent. It did so well that he came out several years later with How to Father. By 1971, Dodson was one of a handful,...
Read MoreSelecting the Right Private School
Posted on 8/16/2016
Q: We are looking for a private school for our 4-year-old. Regardless of the school we ultimately choose, we want to keep him there through eighth grade at least. We live in an suburban area so...
Read MoreUnconditional Love and Leadership Can Change a 'Bad' Child
Posted on 5/24/2016
True story: I sent one of my more recent books to a radio talk-show host who, in turn, gave it to one of her “readers,” asking him to extract appropriate questions. Said reader, a...
Read MoreDon't Turn Bedtime Fears Into a Disciplinary Issue
Posted on 4/5/2016
Q: My 6-year-old daughter watched too many episodes of a certain TV show when she was sick and now she doesn't want to go to sleep at night because she is having scary thoughts related to the...
Read MoreIt's Common Sense to Put Marriage First
Posted on 3/1/2016
I never cease to be amazed at the reactions people sometimes have to things I say. Most recently, a significant number of folks—women, all—were outraged over something I posted online: In a...
Read More3 year-old Tantrums
Posted on 9/8/2015
Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: Our first, a girl, just turned three and has suddenly started throwing tantrums. She can begin a tantrum when she’s alone in her room if something...
Read MoreApproaches to Dinner with 4-year-old
Posted on 7/14/2015
Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: Our 4-year-old daughter will not eat dinner, no matter what. At most, she takes a few bites of what I fix and then says she doesn’t like it. This has...
Read MoreShould You Pay Your Child to Do Chores?
Posted on 5/5/2015
A major US newspaper recently ran a piece detailing all the ways children benefit from doing chores. Well, not all the ways. They failed to mention the most important benefit: chores, properly...
Read MorePull-Ups & Adoption Age
Posted on 9/16/2014
Q: My 23-month-old son does well with potty training when we’re at home. We use a “potty bell” and he goes every 90 minutes or so. When we’re away from home, however, he seems clueless. He...
Read MoreStaying on the Same Page
Posted on 5/27/2014
“How can my spouse and I get on the same page where the kids are concerned?” is both the most difficult question parents ask me and also the most important. It is the most difficult because each...
Read MoreDefiant behavior at school
Posted on 5/13/2014
Q: For the past few months, our usually compliant 4-year-old son has been having problems with defiant behavior at school. He often refuses to do what he is told by the teacher. What concerns us...
Read MoreThe Ticket System for Corrective Discipline
Posted on 4/28/2014
I developed "Tickets" in response to the observation that time-out only works with children who are already fairly well behaved. (Then again, just about any demonstration of parental disapproval...
Read MoreKids Minds Do Matter - Reading vs Social Media
Posted on 4/22/2014
The Wall Street Journal says there’s no difference between a child whose primary interest is reading and a child who uses social media obsessively. In WSJ’s March 22-23 “Mind and Matter” column,...
Read MoreLeadership - Being a Proper Parent
Posted on 2/18/2014
In my most popular presentation - "Parenting with Love and Leadership"™ - I reveal the secret to proper, effective discipline: to wit, acting like a superior being. Today's parents have been...
Read MoreKeep a Sharp Eye on Electronics
Posted on 1/28/2014
Q: Our 13-year-old son has had an iPod for the last 3 years. We've always made use of the parental restrictions to make sure that he could only access "clean" music, movies, and websites. When I...
Read MoreDiscipline Problems
Posted on 10/1/2013
Most parents describe discipline problems as if they are "coming out" of their kids, that the problems in question reveal facets of their kids' personalities-things like "strong-willed."...
Read MoreNanny Interaction
Posted on 7/9/2013
A mom asked me a most interesting and currently pertinent question the other day: "How much one-on-one interaction should take place been a nanny and a child under her supervision?" The...
Read MoreGifted and Talented Programs
Posted on 6/4/2013
Q: Our 9-year-old daughter is going to the fourth grade next school year. She loves school and has always done very well. She recently took a series of tests and we've learned that she qualifies...
Read MoreParenting Stone Age
Posted on 5/7/2013
When I was a child, back in the Parenting Stone Age (a.k.a. the Parentocentric Era), your parents were the most important people in the family. They paid the bills, bought your clothes, prepared...
Read MoreAttitude is everything!
Posted on 12/11/2012
Q: Our 7-year-old has always been a great, respectful, funny little kid. However, recently he started lying and become a little sneaky. We punished him by taking his television privilege away and...
Read MoreUnconditional Love and Unequivocal Leadership
Posted on 8/7/2012
In the late 1960s, as psychologist B. F. Skinner's behavior modification theory made the jump from academia into popular culture, the focus in child rearing shifted from molding character to...
Read MoreGive Children What They Need and Little of What They Want
Posted on 11/22/2011
Respect children; don't idolize them A young mother who identified herself as a practitioner of "attachment parenting" recently told me that "children should be approached with reverence." I...
Read MoreTake the Time to Define Your Parenting Mission Statement
Posted on 9/27/2011
I've been thinking a lot lately about the difference between the way I and almost everyone else in my generation (I was born in 1947) were raised and the way today's kids are being raised. The...
Read MoreBoundaries with Children
Posted on 4/12/2011
Moms must enforce boundaries with children A journalist recently began an interview with me with this question: "What is the biggest problem in American parenting today? Is it sex, drugs,...
Read MoreKids Hitting Parents
Posted on 2/22/2011
A hidden abuse problem: Kids who assault parents One of the more heartbreaking consequences of the "psychological" parenting philosophy and style that American parents began adopting in the...
Read MoreChildhood Obesity
Posted on 1/11/2011
Parents can solve childhood obesity Last week I offered 15 parenting resolutions for the new year. This week, I'm making a prediction: 2011 will see the beginning of a revolution in what and...
Read MoreChildren's Activities Impacting Family
Posted on 6/29/2010
It's hard to be a real family when Mom is just a chauffeur Q: My husband and I have five kids ages 11, 10, 7, 5, and 22 months. I would love to keep activities to a minimum to give the kids...
Read MoreBecause I Said So 3
Posted on 3/24/2009
'BECAUSE I SAID SO' SHOULD SAY IT ALL Last week's column concerned the corrosive 1960s idea that children should be allowed to express their feelings freely, which all too many of today's kids...
Read MoreEarly is Better Than Later For Toilet Training
Posted on 10/7/2008
EARLY IS BETTER THAN LATER FOR BABY'S TOILET TRAINING I've said many times that letting a child older than 30 months soil and wet herself several times a day is an insult to the child's...
Read More16-Year-Old Girl Tells Younger Siblings What To Do
Posted on 9/9/2008
TRY HUMOR TO DISCOURAGE KIDS' DRAMA Q. Our 16-year-old daughter constantly tells her younger siblings what to do and how to do it, and that the way they do things isn't good enough. It creates...
Read More4-Year-Old Girl Tantrums
Posted on 8/26/2008
TELL 4-YEAR-OLD 'THE DOCTOR' SAYS TANTRUMS MUST END Q: My 4-year-old daughter still has very bad tantrums. When she does this on an outing, I immediately take her home. However, this affects...
Read MoreSecond Grade Girl's Teacher Does Not Correct Homework
Posted on 2/5/2008
REVIEW CHILD'S HOMEWORK IF TEACHER ISN'T CORRECTING IT Q. My daughter's second-grade teacher does not correct homework but only checks whether or not it was done. I find that my daughter often...
Read MoreParent Leadership: Effective Parents Act Like They Know What They Are Doing
Posted on 9/25/2007
A GOOD PARENT IS A DECISIVE PARENT I've said it before, but it cannot be said often enough: The discipline of a child is not accomplished by manipulating reward and punishment. Yes, a child...
Read More4-Year-Old Boy Who Asks Nonstop Questions
Posted on 7/24/2007
CHILD'S CURIOSITY GETS OUT OF CONTROL HERE'S A WAY TO LIMIT QUESTIONS TO THOSE THAT REALLY NEED ANSWERING Q: I have a 4-year-old son who starts asking questions when he gets up in the...
Read More3-Year-Old Going to Preschool
Posted on 1/2/2007
TODDLERS WHO DON'T GO TO PRESCHOOL UNLIKELY TO FALL BEHIND THEIR PEERS Q: At what age do you think children should start going to preschool? My son is going on 3, and he is home with me. I...
Read MoreTwins in Separate Classes
Posted on 12/19/2006
PUT TWINS IN SEPARATE CLASSES? CAN'T HURT, MAY HELP, NOT VITAL Q: What are your feelings about separating twins in school? With my girls, one appears to be the leader and one the follower, but...
Read More5- and 2-Year-Old Boys Won't Take Naps
Posted on 12/5/2006
NOW THAT THEY'RE BUNKING TOGETHER, THEY WON'T TAKE NAPS Q: My almost 5- and 2-year-old boys recently moved to a bunk bed to be in the same room. I'm delighted that they have a wonderful...
Read MoreTreat Adoption as a Small Deal
Posted on 11/7/2006
TREATING YOUR CHILD'S ADOPTION AS A BIG DEAL CAN BACKFIRE LATER Long-standing readers of this column know that I believe no hoopla should or needs to be made concerning adoption. I am convinced...
Read More5-Year-Old Enforced Naptime at School
Posted on 10/10/2006
Enforced naptime Q: My 5-year-old son started kindergarten this year. He is an active, inquisitive boy who has not taken a nap in three years. However, the school enforces a 45-minute naptime....
Read MoreAdult Leadership is Key to Effective Discipline of Kids
Posted on 6/20/2006
ADULTS' LEADERSHIP IS THE KEY TO EFFECTIVE DISCIPLINE OF KIDS The question journalists most frequently ask me: "Is there one question parents ask most frequently?" Actually, there is, but...
Read More5-Year-Old Fear of School
Posted on 2/7/2006
SON'S FEAR OF BUS IS GENUINE, BUT HE CAN CONQUER HIS TERROR Q: My 5-year-old son was so nervous on the first day of kindergarten that he threw up shortly after getting there. Since then, he...
Read More3-Year-Old Bed Wetting Issue
Posted on 1/17/2006
SPANKING IS NOT SOLUTION TO BED-WETTING BY 3-YEAR-OLD BOY Q: Our 3-year-old son has been day- and night-potty trained for nearly a year. Several months ago, just after starting preschool, he...
Read MoreSchool's First Grade Reward System
Posted on 1/10/2006
TEACHER'S REWARD SYSTEM IRKS PARENTS Q: Our son's new first-grade teacher gives children smiley faces for behaving properly. At the end of the week, they trade them in for prizes. On the other...
Read More3-Year-Old and Day Care Issues
Posted on 12/20/2005
FATHER LEARNS LESSON ABOUT DAY CARE The father titled his letter "You Can't Tell a Day Care By Its Cover." It told a story that has become all-too familiar over the past few years. The dad...
Read MoreChild Needs to be Family Team Player
Posted on 12/13/2005
YOUR CHILD'S MOST IMPORTANT 'TEAM' IS THE FAMILY A father recently told me one reason his 10-year-old son was active in a different sport every season was "he needs to learn how to be a...
Read MoreDifficult for Babysitter to Impose Discipline for 3-Year-Old
Posted on 11/15/2005
IT'S HARD FOR SITTER TO IMPOSE DISCIPLINE Q: I recently left my 3-year-old daughter with a 16-year-old baby sitter for the first time. She was fine for an hour or so and then began refusing...
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