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Keep It Simple With Your Kids During Quarantine

Posted on 4/14/2020

One website is titled “How to Cope with Kids During Coronavirus.” Another, featuring a staged photo of an obviously frazzled mom with a toddler on her lap, tells the reader that “Parents are...

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The Biggest Mistakes Parents Make (and How to Stop Making Them!) - Part 2

Posted on 2/11/2020

This is the second in a series of three columns on the Biggest Mistakes Parents Make (and How to Stop Making Them!). Last week, I identified giving children explanations for parental instructions,...

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15 New Year's Resolutions for Parents

Posted on 12/30/2019

<b>Given that the new year is upon us, I'm proposing a number of parenting resolutions for my readers to consider. The list is by no means comprehensive. It's just a good beginning on what is...

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Today's Parents Afraid Kids Won't Like Them

Posted on 8/13/2019

Short questions I’ve been asked of late (mostly by journalists) and proportionately short answers: Q: Is there a single most important thing parents should be teaching during their children’s...

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The Children-Need-Lots-Of-Attention Myth

Posted on 1/22/2019

One of the more difficult facts for today’s parents, as a rule, to wrap their heads around is the…I’ll say it again, with emphasis…FACT that children do not need (as a general rule) a lot of...

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Home Alone: Is Your Child Ready?

Posted on 3/9/2017

For some folks, the phrase "latchkey child" rings of parental neglect. Yet, unlike in the movies, most kids who are left unattended in an empty house do just fine, emotionally and otherwise....

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A Guide to Kids and Chores

Posted on 1/27/2017

<b><i>Household jobs will help your kids master the mechanics of running a home, and the skills needed for responsible living. Here's how to get them started and encourage their...

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Parenting 101

Posted on 1/9/2017

<i><b>Welcome to Parenting 101. Upon passing this course, you will have acquired what it takes to raise children who are mannerly, self-disciplined and do their best in school. As you will see,...

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How We Got Our Children to Do Chores

Posted on 5/17/2016

This is the absolutely true story of how Willie and I took two children who "would not lift a finger around the house'' and removed them from Family Welfare: When our children, Eric and Amy,...

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Reclaiming Parent Leadership

Posted on 5/12/2016

Things have really changed now that parenting has turned into a project focused on deep (theoretical) psychological qualities. Parenting used to be about children's values, character, and...

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'No' Is Best Answer When Mom and Dad Disagree on Parenting Issue

Posted on 3/15/2016

Q: Is three hours of one sport once a week too much for a 7-year-old? This sport meets from 6 - 9 PM. It is nearly 10 PM before child is in bed (as opposed to usual 8:30 bedtime). My husband...

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Today's Grandparent's Deserve Well-Behaved Grandchildren

Posted on 2/23/2016

A recent article on grandparenting.com says that many baby boomers are experiencing difficulties in their relationships with adult children, including “not enough time together, not enough regular...

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Make Chores a Priority

Posted on 5/5/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond A major US newspaper recently ran a piece detailing all the ways children benefit from doing chores. Well, not all the ways. They failed to mention...

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Not All Outcomes Are Equal

Posted on 2/17/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Equality under the law is a uniquely American principle, one that no freedom-loving person would oppose, but the manner in which said principle is...

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The Ticket System for Corrective Discipline

Posted on 4/28/2014

I developed "Tickets" in response to the observation that time-out only works with children who are already fairly well behaved. (Then again, just about any demonstration of parental disapproval...

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Unconditional Love and Unequivocal Leadership

Posted on 8/7/2012

In the late 1960s, as psychologist B. F. Skinner's behavior modification theory made the jump from academia into popular culture, the focus in child rearing shifted from molding character to...

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Step-Family Issues: Parent From the Marriage

Posted on 11/15/2011

How to 'parent from the marriage' Q: Several years ago, I married a widower who never disciplined his children. They are now 9, 14 and 16 and he still has a very difficult time denying them...

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15 Resolutions For Parents

Posted on 1/4/2011

15 resolutions for parents Given that this is the first column of a new year, I'm proposing a number of parenting New Year's Resolutions for my readers to consider. The list is by no means...

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High Self Esteem

Posted on 9/21/2010

Spare the praise and save our civilization The notion that adults should do all they possibly can to advance the self-esteem of children is dying a slow but, we hope, unavoidable...

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Growing Up in the 1950s

Posted on 8/31/2010

What today's kids are missing What do today's children seriously lack that children in the 1950s and before enjoyed in abundance? To assist the reader in figuring out the answer before it is...

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More Parents Saying Yes to No

Posted on 3/10/2009

A POSITIVE SIGN: MORE PARENTS SAYING 'YES' TO 'NO' While walking through one of my favorite discount stores the other day, I happened upon a scene that gave me hope for America's future. It was...

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Parenting 101: More Chores, Less Electronics

Posted on 12/2/2008

MORE CHORES, LESS TV GOOD FOR KIDS This is the conclusion of Parenting 101, a two-part overview of the fundamentals of parenting. We've established that parenting is about leadership and...

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4-Year-Old Boy Hitting Others at Preschool

Posted on 11/18/2008

KIDS WHO HURT OTHERS NEED TO BE STOPPED Q. Our 4-year-old son is hitting others at preschool and has to spend the afternoon in his room for this. In soccer, he's pushing kids down and tripping...

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Siblings Sharing Rooms

Posted on 8/28/2007

WANT YOUR KIDS TO GET ALONG? HAVE THEM SHARE A ROOM The question of whether or not children should share rooms came up on my Web site the other day, causing me to realize that in 31-plus...

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Are All Teens Crazy?

Posted on 2/27/2007

Are teenagers basically nuts? Michael J. Bradley thinks so. An educational psychologist and therapist, Bradley's the author of "Yes, Your Teen is Crazy! Loving Your Kid Without Losing Your Mind."...

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10 Ways Parents Can Raise Well-Adjusted Kids

Posted on 7/11/2006

<b>How to grow a happy child, part one:</b> If you are married, have a more active relationship with one another than you have with your children. Spend more time in the roles of husband and wife...

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Video Game Issue

Posted on 6/6/2006

THINK VIDEO GAMES ARE OK? LISTEN TO THIS MOM'S STORY When video games first came out, I warned my readers that they were not appropriate for children. I maintained they were not games; rather,...

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Child Needs to be Family Team Player

Posted on 12/13/2005

YOUR CHILD'S MOST IMPORTANT 'TEAM' IS THE FAMILY A father recently told me one reason his 10-year-old son was active in a different sport every season was "he needs to learn how to be a...

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Paying Children for Chores and Treating Adults with Respect

Posted on 7/19/2005

QUESTION'S RIDICULOUS, BUT I'LL ANSWER IT ANYWAY I LIKE CHILDREN - WHEN THEY BEHAVE AND TREAT ADULTS WITH RESPECT Most Ridiculous Item of the Week: Someone recently asked me if I like...

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Parents Should be Leaders, not Pals

Posted on 4/5/2005

PARENTS SHOULD REAR KIDS, NOT BE PALS These days it seems that the more things change in parenting, the more they keep right on changing. For example Today's parents are trying to...

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5-Year-Old Needs to Occupy Self

Posted on 10/7/2003

SHOW KIDS THEY'RE SMART ENOUGH TO OCCUPY THEMSELVES Q: I'm a single mom who works full-time from home. At noon, I pick up my 5-year-old from her half-day kindergarten program. Unfortunately,...

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Chidren Will Change When Their Behavior Causes Them to Become Upset (Babysitting Story)

Posted on 2/25/2003

SOMETIMES A 'SHRUG' GETS RESULTS Every so often, I run across a story that qualifies for inclusion in my growing "Parenting at its Best" collection. These "bests" almost always involve...

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Allowances and Alternating Chores

Posted on 7/10/2001

GIVE KIDS CHORES TO LEARN, NOT TO EARN Q. Two questions: In a recent column, you encouraged the practice of children doing chores and advised that parents not pay for this work. Are you...

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Parents Disagree on Paying Children for Chores

Posted on 6/26/2001

KIDS SHOULD DO CHORES WITHOUT EXPECTING PAY Q. My husband and I disagree over paying children for chores. He feels that just as we get paid for doing our jobs, children should be paid for...

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9- and 12-Year-Old Don't Want to do Chores

Posted on 2/13/2001

NAGGING IS WRONG TACTIC IN CHORE WARS Q. Our 12-year-old son and 9-year-old daughter share animal chores on our family farm in the evenings. Every night we have to remind them, and they always...

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After-School Activities

Posted on 1/25/2000

BEST AFTER-SCHOOL ACTIVITIES TAKE PLACE AT HOME Q. I read the recent column in which you called on parents to take their kids out of all after-school activities. I couldn't help but wonder...

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Chores Make Child Useful Within the Family

Posted on 1/13/1998

CHORES BUILD YOUR CHILD'S COMPETENCE AND CHARACTER Colonial children were initiated into the adult world early, but not in a hasty or harsh manner. From the age of 3 or so they were given...

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Today's Teens are More Prone to Serious Problems Than in Years Past

Posted on 5/27/1997

TEENS AND PARENTS AREN'T WHAT THEY ONCE WERE Q. Every week it seems, I hear yet another horror story about a teen-ager who's gone "off the deep end.'' In many cases, these are kids whose...

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Good Parenting Requires Sacrifice

Posted on 3/13/1997

I'M A LOVING DISCIPLINARIAN, NOT A NAZI I've noticed that journalists often conceal an inability to think dispassionately about a given subject by engaging in prose that is "cute.'' Such...

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How To Make Children Do Chores

Posted on 11/21/1996

<i>This is the absolutely true story of how Willie and I took two children who "would not lift a finger around the house'' and removed them from Family Welfare:</i> When our children, Eric and...

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Understanding and Successfully Managing Your Teen-Ager - Part 4

Posted on 5/2/1996

MUZZLING THE EFFECTS OF PEER PRESSURE EDITOR'S NOTE: Fourth in a series on teen-agers. Q. Every week, it seems, I hear another horror story about a teen-ager who's gone "off the deep...

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8- and 10-Year-Old Forgetting Chores

Posted on 1/18/1996

TO HELP KIDS REMEMBER TO DO CHORES, POST THEM ON A SCHEDULE Q. We've tried various forms of punishment to get our children, ages 10 and 8, to remember their chores. But nothing works. We find...

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Respect is a Two-Way Street

Posted on 2/24/1995

ADULTS, KIDS ALIKE NEED TO LEARN WHAT RESPECT MEANS Q. You emphasize the importance of children having respect for adults. I'm a teenager, and it seems to me that some adults have little...

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First Grandchild

Posted on 1/13/1995

NOT TO BRAG, BUT LET ME TELL YOU ABOUT MY NEW GRANDSON My grandson, John McHenry Rosemond, was born at 7 a.m. on New Year's Day. I know all grandparents - especially those who, like my wife...

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Allowances - Part 1

Posted on 8/5/1994

ALLOWANCES TEACH HOW TO SPEND, SAVE FIRST OF THREE PARTS For whatever reason, parents have asked me a lot of questions lately about allowances. I've decided to cash in on this surge of...

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Teacher Concerned About High Number of ADD Students

Posted on 7/15/1994

IS ATTENTION DISORDER FOR REAL? INSTEAD OF GENETICS, IT MAY BE UPBRINGING Q. As a teacher, I'm increasingly concerned about the number of children being identified as having attention...

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Thoughts on Parenthood - Part 2

Posted on 2/18/1994

CHILDREN NEED TO LEARN THE 3 R'S: RESPECT, RESPONSIBILITY, RESOURCEFULNESS More musings on parenthood: * Children need a lot of supervision, but not a lot of attention. Too much attention, like...

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15-Year-Old on Phone All the Time

Posted on 3/20/1992

WHAT TO DO FOR A 15-YEAR-OLD'S SERIOUS CASE OF PHONE EAR Q. We have a 15-year-old daughter who, if allowed, would stay on the phone in her room all day and night. When we propose regulations,...

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8- and 10-Year-Old Chore Issues

Posted on 4/22/1990

WHEN CHORES ARE KID STUFF, A LITTLE ORGANIZING HELPS Q. We've tried various forms of punishment, including restriction and deducting money from their allowances, to get our children, ages 10...

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Child-Rearing has 3 Fundamental Elements - Function, Obligation, and Purpose - Part 1

Posted on 12/3/1989

TAKE IT EASY, MOM; PARENTING'S NOT SO HARD Since the late '40s, when Dr. Benjamin Spock's "Baby and Child Care" was just about the only child-care manual in the marketplace, the number of...

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