My usually pleasant almost 2 year old daughter just started throwing violent fits this week, kicking, screaming, and trying and sometimes succeeding in banging her head into my face. A few times it's started after I asked her to do something she didn't want to do, the other times, I don't have any idea what prompted the outbursts. She can scream for a long time. Is this a normal start to the terrible twos? How can I help her?
Hello and thank you for your question. Your daughter is right on schedule for the push back we see when children who are used to being served start to understand that those days are gone.
To help her, you'll need patience and a sense of humor! First, stop asking her to do things, and start telling her. Instead of "Will you please put your shoes in your closet?" try "Put your shoes away." When the outbursts begin, calmly walk away. When the screaming doesn't stop, confine your daughter to a safe and boring place where she can rant and rave without an audience.
You are entering the transitional season of parenting in which your child will learn that she is no longer the center of the family and your life. Your job is to take that adorable little dictator and help her become respectful, obedient and responsible. I highly recommend Dr. Rosemond's book "Making the Terrible Twos Terrific!" which can help guide you through this critical growth and learning stage.
Wishing you quiet and happy days ahead!
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