Question
My stepson is about to enter high school. He will be 15 in September. Last May he vandalized his "friends" house and fathers" car to the tune of 12,000.00 which we payed. He wrote foul language in spray paint and threats. I pulled him out of the school and put him in private school along with other consequences. Now he wants to go to the same HS that the "victim" will be going to. It is a relatively small school and they will be riding the bus together. He has had no contact with the boy since the incident. Both my husband and I agree that he should go to the home and apologize to the boy and his parents and say that he has matured and regrets what he did. When I told him he has to do this he said "no" and his father let him proceed to play video games. Today I told him he has to apologize or he cannot go to that school. He said OK. and admitted he will hate the private school. I told him we are the parents and we make the decisions and if he doesn't apologize he will not have anymore guitar lessons which he loves and he says OK. My husband said he shouldn't have to apologize if he doesn't mean it and that I shouldn't have brought it up (and it was HIS idea). Honestly he is so defiant and my husband says it's not right to make him do something he doesn't want too. Help ! The stress is wearing me down. Plus he has a bad attitude and his grades are not even close to his ability. Thank you
