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Address Marital Issues First

Posted on 3/7/2024

How do you handle an out-of-control 16-year-old son when your husband is a "gentle" parent who uses non-stop, condescending "teacher talk" to discipline, and shoots down my attempts at "scary"...

Hide and seek marriage.

Posted on 2/22/2024

I am married but in a lot of ways feel like a single mother. Our 2 kids are quite busy toddlers. My husband often works late (not because he has to but because he wants to) and when he is home he...

Parenting role confusion.

Posted on 2/20/2024

In his podcast, John often asserts that mothers are prone to gentle parenting and erroneous thinking that their children should "like" them. Since husbands/fathers should be leading, what advice...

Time for marriage counseling.

Posted on 5/29/2023

My husband feels I criticize him too much and maybe I do. I've been known to criticize him for leaving dishes in or around the sink when I've told him not to more than once (we have a...

The marital relationship should come first.

Posted on 5/29/2023

My husband has referred to my 14 year old son & I having a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship or acting like boyfriend/girlfriend occasionally. I'm not sure how to take the comment other than...

HUSBAND AND HIS PHONE

Posted on 5/29/2023

Husband has had a cell phone for as long as we've been married (16 years). He will not admit to anyone at work he has a phone - he doesn't want calls in the middle of the night (nature of his job...

Teaching bedroom privacy

Posted on 5/15/2023

Hello, thank you for the parenting resources you have provided. We have 7 and 4 year old daughters. I am trying to implement Dr. Rosemond's parenting advice. My wife disagrees with things Dr....

30 minute time out for the marriage

Posted on 4/5/2022

I’m currently reading Six point plan , and need guidance. My husband I play The Who’s more tired game, and I want to stop. However, our work hours vary, and I’d like to implement the 30 min rule...

Importance of Presenting a United Parenting Front

Posted on 1/2/2022

This may be a complicated question: I have a question about my and my husband's parenting styles. I come from a conservative background, my parents were old school and traditional. Lots of...

Boys to Men?

Posted on 10/16/2021

Dr. Rosemond, I have heard you comment in the past about how today’s men look and act like boys. My husband is one of these men. While he’s not as immature as some men, he still resembles a boy...

Parents Need to Be On The Same Page

Posted on 7/23/2020

What if both parents in the home are not on the same page, can bad behavior be corrected?

dad on very different page

Posted on 7/2/2020

Do you have any advice for a parent who is the primary disciplinarian in a 2-parent household? For example, after my daughter receives punishment from me for a misbehavior, her dad will often...

Are Family Beds Healthy for the Marriage?

Posted on 2/8/2020

John's "Thought of the Day" said that good parents take very good care of their marriage. I wonder how he feels about "co-sleeping" with a new baby and if that is harmful to the marriage. I want...

Forming a United Parenting Front

Posted on 12/1/2019

Hello...fully realizing Mr Rosemond is NOT a marriage counselor I do have a question. I am 70 years old and my spouse is 49. We have a daughter, 10 years old, that is very bright (public school...

Marijuana Madness

Posted on 10/17/2019

Hello.. again.. thank you for all your previous answers and advice. I would like thoughts on my husband using marijuana. It will be legalized in our state January 2020, so he's getting it...

Sleeping in your own bed.

Posted on 9/7/2019

Our 11 year old son has been afraid of sleeping in his room alone for essentially since he moved from his crib to a big bed. He and his older sister (now 13) shared a bedroom for several years...

Parents Need to Be On The Same Page

Posted on 8/30/2019

My husband and I recently legally adopted our six and half year old nephew who has been living with us since he was 2.5. He did not know us prior to him coming to live with us. He comes from a...

A Strong Marriage is Your First Priority

Posted on 7/24/2019

This is the scinerao...we are sitting at the dinner table. My husband is reading "whatever the latest news is" on his phone. When our 6 yr. talks back to me or does not do what I have asked of...

Be The Grandparent

Posted on 7/10/2019

I witnessed my son try to discipline his daughter. Daughter in law repeatedly challenged him and totally emasculated him in front of me when he continued. She's a wonderful daughter in law and...

Posted on 6/28/2019

What is the best way to get your husband to become "husband first", when he has put every other role (provider, father, hobbies) first instead? My attempts at intimacy, or "wife first"...

Good decisions sometimes hurt.

Posted on 5/4/2019

Hi, Question: What advise can you give? I'm a female in a same-sex marriage and have an 8 year old. He doesn't want to live with me because of my instability with moving from place to place and...

Communication

Posted on 12/18/2018

The John Rosemond books and this site have been helpful to me in regards to how I interact with my children. I would like to make our home a marriage centered home, but my husband and I have a...

Role Reversal Questions

Posted on 11/16/2018

What are your thoughts regarding a wife being the bread winner and a husband staying home with the children. I make significantly more money than my husband so it appears to make sense financially...

What a healthy marriage looks like to a child

Posted on 7/7/2018

Dr. Rosemond, Could you please describe the qualities of a husband and wife marriage that increases a child’s respect for adult authority, and the most common pitfalls of marriage that erodes a...

Figuring things out isn't easy.

Posted on 7/6/2018

I have been married for more than 25 years. My husband came with a daughter from his first marriage and we have two of our own. He is very permissive-extremely guilt ridden and operates from the...

Address marriage issues first.

Posted on 6/27/2018

My husband is a soldier who suffers from PTSD and probably TBI from his time in Combat. He is getting worse and has always refused to get help. When our kids were little they didn’t understand a...

Husband and 19 yr old step son have no relationship

Posted on 6/4/2018

My husband and 19 year old son seem to have absolutely no relationship. (My husband adopted my kids) I’ve been urging them for years to go do stuff together, whatever. 2 weeks ago, our counselor...

Husband files for divorce after wife takes a stand with teens.

Posted on 6/1/2018

Dear John Rosemond, I wrote in a while ago on putting the marriage first. I was never able to get my husband on board which indeed caused a great deal of strife in our family, especially with...

Telling 17yo daughter of Divorce

Posted on 5/27/2018

How do we tell our 17 yr old daughter, about the dad's decision to divorce. The difficult part for me,...we are Christians, and our issue, poor communications. How do I help, that she not feel...

No Clear Cut Answer for When to Blend a Family

Posted on 3/27/2018

hi there I have been dating my BF for about a year. I have never been around his kids yet although they do know of me and our children used to be friends before they moved away. My bf has spent a...

Marital Disagreement over Discipline

Posted on 12/5/2017

I have one biological son who is 13 and 2 years ago gained 3 teenage stepsons due to my 2nd marriage. My husband is smart, successful and well-liked by everyone that meets him. And there's not a...

Holiday Shuffle

Posted on 11/28/2017

This question is regarding the upcoming Christmas season and how to handle my mom and my in-laws. My husband and I have disagreements about how to handle both of our families during this time of...

Putting Marriage First

Posted on 10/27/2017

Dear John, I am a stay at home mom to 3 homeschooled teens who get good grades. I've been a listener to your podcast for a while and agree. I've read several Q & A's on the website regarding...

The Phone is Not the Problem

Posted on 10/4/2017

So, in response to the answer to my question I have a few other questions. In the past few days a lot has transpired and my husband and I really had it out over my son. I understand a lot of his...

Co-sleeping?

Posted on 5/6/2017

how to address the issue of a child sleeping in bed with mother and father.

Unresolved marital issues impact parenting.

Posted on 4/19/2017

My 18 year old step son caused a horrible scene at our family Easter gathering this weekend. His younger brother was in trouble for being rude and disrespectful to both his father and me. However...

Address marital differences first.

Posted on 3/12/2017

UPDATE to my 3/10/2017 questions. It seems the times I've discovered the 9 y/o crying over "missing mom or dad" have coincided with the iPad either being taken away or it not functioning the way...

7 yo Son and Overwhelmed Mom

Posted on 3/6/2017

I discovered John Rosemond about a month ago. I'm afraid I have fallen victim to psychological parenting and all the mommy “requirements” that dictate my day. I am currently reading two of his...

Does Grandma make toddlers unruly?

Posted on 2/15/2017

How much time is too much time away from home? I stay at home with our two little ones and have grandparents right down the road....the issue is they don't make our kids mind so we dread their...

Troubled Young Teen?

Posted on 2/5/2017

This question is in reference to the October 2016 question regarding my 13 year old's act of vandalism. Fast forward 8 months later. He has completed his punishment, but not without having to...

Husband and Wife Not on Same Parenting Page

Posted on 11/7/2016

Our issue has more to do with my spouse & me being on the same page & communicating. We have both read John's books, my hubby knows I'm a big proponent of his methods and says he "agrees" but,...

The marriage came second.

Posted on 11/5/2016

We are retirement age. I already have and my husband plans to soon. It is a blended family. My husband's daughter continues to make poor choices and knows her dad will pay for everything. He...

Mom, Dad and Discipline Disagreements

Posted on 9/17/2016

My husband is inconsistent with discipline when he chooses to discipline. He has created a monster in our 8 year old daughter. Everyone sees this but him. When she was younger and I would...

Parents United

Posted on 7/14/2016

Looking for article stating how important it is for parents to show respect for each other and to collaborate on how to deal with children and not undermine each other

Husband or Dog?

Posted on 5/24/2016

Our family has a 1 year old German Shepherd that we got as a puppy. My husband and I talked about how we would raise the dog before we got her. I would be doing most of the work with her because I...

Spanking

Posted on 3/30/2016

My spouse picks up the kids (ages 6 & 8) from their afterschool program one day a week. This week he confirmed with kids they had their homework, lunch boxes, etc. before leaving. After arriving...

Marriage Problems Interfering with Discipline

Posted on 3/16/2016

Hi. I am the mom of two adopted girls. My 8 year old has been with us since birth and has ADHD and my 3 year old is here almost 2 years from Ethiopia. She is addicted to food and will only talk,...

Husband and Wife Not on Same Page

Posted on 3/15/2016

Any advice for a wife whose husband is not on board with these ideas, other than the obvious marriage counseling. He doesn't actively discourage the techniques but I am continually reminded that...

husband/wife not on same page

Posted on 3/4/2016

Is there a way to get my husband on board with the ticket system for our son? He says the bible says spare the rod... So the only discipline he needs is a spanking when my husband is angry enough.

LGBT Issues in Schools (Australia)

Posted on 2/22/2016

Good Morning, We live in Australia and so far gay and lesbian marriage has not been legalised - but there is a big push for it to be so. They have recently introduced into hundreds of schools...

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